Post Date April, 15 2023
Many men fear marriage because their married life brings them too many restrictions and responsibilities. For example, after marriage, he cannot go to internet cafes and play games every day. Instead, he works overtime to support his family and buy milk powder money for his children. If he is not satisfied with his partner after marriage, he must make do with it. He cannot break up just by saying goodbye. After marriage, various houses, cars, and children's enrollment have always been a big problem that troubles them. They cannot imagine the joy marriage brings to them, and they only have these burdens in their minds.
After marriage, there are many inner worlds in a man's world that are inconvenient to express directly. For example, a wife may not be as delicate as before, but she still has to face it. Parents are urging you to have grandchildren, which means you not only need to work harder in sexual life, but also need to work overtime to earn milk powder money. Sometimes after work, I don't want to go home, but in order to fulfill my husband's responsibility, I have to reluctantly go back, even if I feel unhappy, listless, and silent when I get home. During the day, even if he was unwilling, he had to call his wife from the office because he felt that she had this request. On weekends, he has to cook, run errands, fix things, and then sit passively in front of the TV, striving to play the role of a competent husband and father. When he and his wife are socializing with other couples, he has to play the role of a hospitable host or a likeable guest, but in reality, he has no interest in it.
Due to the differences in social division of labor between men and women, men seem to take on the role of supporting their families in marriage. This makes men feel pressured and socially responsible, as if they are the only ones working in the world. It is precisely because of these differences in psychological conditions between the sexes that men often feel powerless to play a mature role in marriage. He often works hard to adapt to the situation and achieve the peak goal, but it is far from the education he received in his early years. I have to change my inherent pace of life and force myself to become someone else. As a result, he always felt oppressed and plundered. In the eyes of others, he has always been regarded as a standard man. People often hear women complain that they are the oppressed party in marriage, which is obviously not entirely correct. Undoubtedly, she is also bound by marital relationships, but men's hearts are more susceptible to trauma because they lack sufficient emotional preparation for marriage and are more likely to deny and suppress their personalities. While striving to maintain that marital relationship, he became increasingly distant from his true self.
