Many middle-aged people over the age of 40 suddenly feel their sexual desire weaken or disappear, causing them to fall into deep distress. If not handled properly, this situation can create a vicious cycle and cause endless harm.
Although sexual desire is also influenced by hormone levels in the blood and physical conditions, the disappearance of sexual desire is mainly a form of fear rather than caused by illness. Through an investigation of sexual history, it is not difficult to make a judgment that a person originally had a considerable level of sexual desire that was sufficient to meet their own and partner's needs, but suddenly found that sexual desire had significantly decreased or disappeared, he would feel fear, as if his sexual life was about to end, and this fear would block his remaining sensuality. Almost all men between the ages of 40 and 50 experience decreased libido. However, some people do not pay attention, while others are very nervous. In fact, libido is an instinct that generally does not completely disappear, but is easily disturbed by emotions. Therefore, it is crucial to remove inhibitory factors so that the remaining libido can be expressed as long as possible.
Generally speaking, the incidence of loss or decline in sexual desire is variable. In fact, both men and women have a normal period of sexual desire disappearance after sexual intercourse. In addition, when sexual desire is replaced by more urgent considerations, it will also be suppressed. When your sexual desire suddenly disappears or decreases, you should consider whether it is affected by the following factors.
Anxiety is caused by various emotional factors such as fear of pregnancy, fear of insecurity, fear of being discovered by others, and concerns about finances or careers.
Depression is a depression caused by low emotions, self deprecation, self abandonment, unfortunate events, or hidden internal factors.
Open or covert hostility, such as anger after discovering a partner's infidelity, hostility caused by jealousy, and other factors causing hostility.
Due to the influence of emotions on sexual desire, the best approach at this time is consultation and treatment.
It is best to consult in the consultation room: although most of the consultations are psychological issues, sometimes there should be necessary physical examinations. Inquiring in the consultation room can make you feel that the doctor is responsible.
allay a fear
Decreased libido is a normal phenomenon in middle-aged people, but it does not necessarily mean complete disappearance. Temporary disappearance does not necessarily mean permanent disappearance. As long as one can correctly understand and understand this physiological change and make psychological adjustments, then through consultation and treatment, one can fully restore and maintain sexual interest, and make sexual relationships as good as before.
Speak freely about your inner feelings
Being able to freely express fear, anger, sadness, anxiety, and other uncomfortable emotions in front of a doctor can help clear confusion and interference in one's own mind, and is a key step in mitigating negative effects. Under the compassionate and leisurely consultation of doctors, you will feel a sense of security.
desensitization
It is necessary to repeatedly mention the psychological confusion that cannot be resolved and causes interference. Repeatedly raising this question can gradually reduce or even eliminate its impact on oneself.
Relieve stress
Concentrate on improving the enjoyment of oneself and the other person, and identify and eliminate the reasons for low libido. Men not only need to get rid of their negative emotions, but also help their partners overcome this psychological barrier together. Make your partner aware of the nature and possible causes of the problem, help her avoid putting pressure on herself, and promote communication between both parties.
Sometimes, the woman conceals and suppresses her pain and hatred (such as premature ejaculation) during the man's vigorous period, and only expresses it in a satirical manner when the man's problem is severe. At this point, it is necessary to remind her that what the man needs is sympathy, support, and consideration, rather than suspicion and blame, otherwise it will only further harm the man's self-esteem and confidence.
In addition, reading or watching books, magazines, and movies with direct descriptions to stimulate and awaken romantic emotions or fantasies is also an effective auxiliary treatment method. They generally do not cause negative effects such as frustration and are helpful in alleviating decreased libido.