Sexual Health
What should I do if I know this relationship is immoral but refuse to give up after being a mistress
I have always had a difficult emotion to choose from in my heart, and my acquaintance with him is also a kind of fate! He is ten years older than me. At first, I just thought I just knew him, but I still can't believe that I have an unforgettable relationship with him. At first, he used lies and deception to speculate with me. Because of his innocence and innocence, he believed his words for a moment. Later, when I became pregnant with him, he told me that she had a family and that I had been subjected to medical abortion, which made me feel guilty
Now when I think of all the efforts I have made for him, I don't know if it's just a whim or if I truly love him? He told me about the relationship between her and her wife, because she had been in the detention center several times and she never cared about him. When relatives or friends came to the house, she never cared about anything. He has two children. Although his wife is lazy and enjoys playing mahjong, he never beats her. However, her wife calls and scolds some very unpleasant words, which I haven't kept in mind.
I have been thinking: although my relationship with him started with a lie and deception, I have been struggling until I have put in so much effort for him. No matter whether his relationship with his wife is good or not, since she has a family, I should not continue with him, but my youth is also in him! If I give up, I feel like I can't do without him; Not giving up and feeling tired of living in family and relationships
I don't know what to do? I really didn't want to sit in her wife's seat, and I don't want them to continue making trouble like this. I just want him to be responsible for me. What should I do?
reply:
A woman may inevitably encounter emotional fraudsters in life, but when faced with men's lies, even if they are overwhelmed by love, you cannot easily detect them. However, you cannot easily be deceived. If you are easily deceived into bed by a man, it is ultimately not your own problem, it is your lack of vigilance. Would it be a sign of cherishing and respecting oneself to be able to conceive casually with a man without entering a marriage? Don't complain about the other party's lies and deceit, and don't say you are innocent and innocent. Are you a primary school student when you are with the other party? Is there no bottom line or judgment?
Since you know that you have been deceived and that this relationship is immoral, your instinctive reaction was right. Facing a man with a family, you can't continue with him anymore. There's nothing to say about this. Based on moral considerations, no matter how much you love this man, you must have a clear attitude and sever your relationship with him. You should know that being a mistress without knowing it can be considered innocent; If one knows that the other party has a family and still wants to be a mistress, it is shameless. Therefore, please face this issue squarely and stay away from moral accusations. Don't be foolishly entangled in a relationship that doesn't belong to you, let alone be infatuated with and unwilling to love a man who doesn't deserve your love. Otherwise, if you continue to entangle, you will only be condemned by the secular world and hurt yourself.
Why bother women? Since you don't want to hurt an innocent woman, choosing to quit without hesitation is your wise move. As for the idea of making this man responsible for you, do you want him to be responsible for you and marry you, or do you want him to give you some other compensation? To the former, I can only say that you are ignorant and make repeated mistakes; For the latter, if you feel imbalanced, you can only ask for financial compensation from him, otherwise what else can you do. But what I want to say is, instead of letting others take responsibility for you, it's better to take responsibility for yourself from now on: cherish your dignity, respect your personality, otherwise you will completely lose yourself.