Nowadays, more and more unmarried men and women choose to cohabit through trial marriage, which has advantages but also risks. During this process, there will inevitably be conflicts and disputes or aesthetic fatigue. It is necessary to prepare for 9 psychological preparations and start a happy cohabitation life.
1. To choose cohabitation, be prepared to discover his shortcomings that you don't know.
Before cohabitation, each other presents their best selves in front of each other on every date. After cohabitation, it is likely that they have relaxed their vigilance and completely exposed their true life state to each other. Since you have chosen to cohabit, you should be fully prepared to meet all of his shortcomings you know, and learn how to accommodate each other and adjust your relationship model in a timely manner.
2. Don't ask about the other person's privacy. Cohabitation does not mean that he or she is your private property.
Respect each other's privacy even after marriage. Cohabitation does not mean that you should exercise the privacy of the other person and also check them thoroughly. "He is not your private property, and there is no need to be frank and lenient in his privacy.". Pay more attention to your future and less attention to his past, which makes it easier for you to gain a sense of happiness and security.
3. While simulating marital life, don't forget that life requires emotional appeal, and occasional romance must be persisted.
Although cohabitation is an early stage of marital life, even if you are truly married, it is important to remember to add spice to your life. Don't leave life with nothing but fuel, remember to go out on a romantic date occasionally, and snuggle up to watch a movie after a candlelight dinner is also a good choice. Occasional romances can make your cohabitation life less boring.
4. "Don't pretend to be his wife, let alone his nanny, just because you live together.".
Perhaps you think that since I have all cohabited, I should take good care of him and make him feel like I am a good wife and mother. In fact, this idea is very wrong. A man choosing a lifelong partner is definitely not putting whether you are a good domestic helper in the first place. He needs not only a life partner, but also hope that you can connect with each other in your soul. So don't enter a role as soon as you cohabit. It's difficult for a woman like a nanny to win the favor of a man by pretending to be his wife. "If this is a thing that anyone can do well, there is absolutely no need for him to pick on you for contacts.".
5. Give each other a certain amount of freedom, and don't act like a housekeeper to control him and his friends going out.
The relationship between two people is like a rubber band, which can break even if it is stretched too tightly. When cohabiting, don't start managing things like a housekeeper, and don't kill people when they are gathering with friends. Give each other some freedom and don't let your cohabitation feel oppressive.
6. Don't prematurely involve both families in your life.
Don't meet each other's family too early, especially when your own cohabitation life is not completely stable. Family issues are likely to become the trigger for your quarrel, so enjoy and consolidate your cohabitation life first.
7. Cohabitation is not really marriage, and there is no need to share finances.
Choosing to cohabit does make your relationship more intimate, but don't be so intimate that you and I don't even have financial income. In fact, managing each other's finances can reduce many conflicts and make the other party feel respected. Never start taking over his wallet with a sense of entitlement.
8. Respect each other's living habits and try to accommodate each other.
In cohabitation, it is a big issue whether the living habits of both parties can be well adjusted. Many originally harmonious couples end up going their separate ways because their living habits cannot always be coordinated after cohabitation. Therefore, learn to accommodate each other's living habits and take a step back from each other. If the other person is not used to staying up late, you should not often be a night owl.
9. Pay attention to your personal image. It doesn't matter if you're plain and face the sky. You can't dress too sloppily.
Don't let the other person whisper to themselves, "She always looks like this at home.". Even if you live together at home, you should also pay attention to your appearance. It's perfectly okay to be plain and face up to the sky, but don't appear in front of him in a scruffy way, undermining your beauty in his mind.