What kind of sex is the most beautiful and harmonious? Please avoid four misconceptions in sexual life

What should we pay attention to in a harmonious sexual life? Harmonious sexual life is now one of the health issues that people pay attention to, and it is also a crucial issue for couples to manage their marriage. So what should we pay attention to in a harmonious sexual life? Below is an introduction for you.

1、 What should be paid attention to in a harmonious sexual life

There is a cross talk saying: 'If you can, you can do it, and if you can't, you can do it.'; Saying no is no good, neither is it good. In sexual intercourse, some men may fail, often due to negative self-awareness. The following editor summarizes the following 8 prominent issues:

Overgeneralization. For example, tonight, I had difficulty getting an erection, and I will definitely not have one tomorrow morning. To exaggerate occasional problems into the overall situation is to generalize excessively. Dingding erection is the result of the interaction of multiple factors under neural and endocrine regulation, and is related to sensory stimuli such as touch, vision, hearing, and smell. Occasionally without a morning erection, it cannot be concluded that an erection is not good.

Suspicion. For example, there's no need to ask, I know how she feels. Did she say something nice to please me? This suspicion is a lack of understanding towards the partner. Couples need to be sincere, frank, and open. Especially in the sexual life, because there are many differences between men and women in sexual psychology, Sexual arousal, sexual response cycle and other aspects, it is more important to listen to each other's opinions, speak frankly about their feelings, and strengthen common exchange and communication.

Lack of initiative. A prominent manifestation of men's lack of initiative in marital sexual life is their lack of confidence, believing that their partner's words and actions are just comforting themselves. At this point, the wife should tell the other party that you are the best, and it is best to describe her pleasure in detail.

Lack of Sexual fantasy. In sexual life, Sexual fantasy is an important source of sexual feelings and also the engine of sexual reaction. Through Sexual fantasy, sex can be turned into hazy enjoyment, thus promoting Ding Ding's erection.

Negative expectations. For example, I think the performance tonight was still very poor. The pessimism of men towards erections and even sexual activity is fatal. This is also related to the lack of Sexual fantasy and initiative.

Random speculation. For example, no matter what others say, I feel that my erection is not good, that's not good. Emotional speculation refers to patients inferring the hardness of an erection solely based on their own feelings.

Being too strict with oneself. For example, every time I have sex, I must achieve perfect hardness and satisfy my lover. Men often demand themselves in this way. Little did they know that occasional sexual dissatisfaction is related to fatigue and mood. Relaxing your mood, letting go of your burdens, and following your own inclinations are the key to being able to easily engage in sexual activity.

The ideological burden is too heavy. For example, if I don't perform well tonight, my lover will abandon me. Most men view poor sexual performance as a huge disaster, and once it happens, they will lose interest in life and work. In fact, one or two failures are not scary. Even if sexual performance is poor for a period of time, treatment can still be provided through oral medication, psychological counseling, and other methods.

2、 Misunderstandings in Female Sexual Life

Myth 1: Only by working hard in bed rooms can sexual perfection be achieved.

Perhaps this is the most common mistake we make. In fact, if sexual life is deliberately managed, it cannot truly integrate the body and mind into it. For example, Miss C always wants to showcase her best image to her lover, including in the bedside room, trying to keep her hair smooth and her lips red and cheeks fragrant, so that her husband only wants to see from afar and has no sex at all. Of course, from another perspective, if you are too busy thinking about how to move your body, how to touch the other person, and how to observe their feelings, then you will definitely not have much happiness yourself. Experts believe that the most beautiful sex is when the body and mind are completely free from distractions and fully immerse themselves in it.

Myth 2: Prolonging foreplay or afterplay can greatly reduce sexual interest.

Many people believe that sex should always be improvised. In fact, in a busy and tense life and work, it is difficult for us to have leisure and leisure to wait for the natural desires that arise. Therefore, simply waiting can only make the beautiful time we should have quietly pass away. Although many experts do not advocate predetermined sexual behavior, they advocate setting aside time for beautiful sex. Imagine how long it takes you to prepare a dish? Although sex that satisfies you is not about the length of time, but the joy of the process, if the time is too short to share each other's feelings, then sex is just a mechanical action. Foreplay is particularly important for increasing sexual interest. You can bathe with your husband. When helping him apply bubbles all over his body, he will definitely have a strange feeling. Beautiful Ming said that every time she takes a shower, she asks her husband to help her flush the water. At that time, Ming always had a kind of joy and excitement slowly rising in her heart.

Myth 3: Women who are too independent and autonomous can make men impotent.

Miss C is not only charming and versatile, but also a successful female white-collar worker. While Miss C's career is thriving, their originally beloved marital life has gone wrong. After failing several times between the beds, the husband became extremely frustrated. One night, he even asked Miss C to split the bed and sleep. Miss C was shocked and turned pale, thinking that it was because she was too strong that she caused her husband's sexual impotence.

But that's not the case. The 'failure' of men may be composed of multiple factors. The independence and autonomy of women is a charm for men. From a man's perspective, the most attractive women are those who show enthusiasm and positivity towards sex. A woman who does not put any effort into sex and only passively fulfills the obligation of sexual intercourse will make her husband sexually impotent.

Myth 4: Sex should always be the most perfect and passionate communication between two people's hearts and bodies.

In real life, sex can be various, gentle, wild, enduring, fleeting, good, and bad. Therefore, if we are discouraged and distressed by what we have experienced that is not as good as we imagined, it will only deprive us of the joy we already have, and we will endlessly feel powerless and unsuccessful. Therefore, accepting and facing our sexual love with a normal mindset will prevent us from being surrounded by pain and confusion.