Post Date July, 30 2023
It's not easy for two people to get together, but in recent years the divorce demography has become higher and higher. Some seemingly inconspicuous and strange factors in life will hurt the happiness of couples, especially these nine factors will destroy the marriage relationship, which is unexpected.
What destroyed your marriage?
1. Always having unrealistic expectations
If there are high expectations in marriage, it is easy to feel hopeless or disappointed in the first year after marriage, such as hoping for a perfect sexual life. In fact, there is no perfect marriage in the world, and optimistic expectations often lead to disappointment. However, in the process of marriage, one should never give up optimistic expectations, as long as they are properly controlled.
2. One party always makes decisions
In general, people who have almost or very little say in marriage are not happy. Usually, the dominant party tends to feel hopeless about marriage. When making decisions together, one party follows the other party's opinions and should learn to change and express their inner thoughts and opinions more. If things at home are always up to you to decide, try to take turns letting others decide on future matters.
3. Show off with a perfect posture
After research, it has been shown that being perfect in a partner's heart may not make them too happy, and they may feel that their partner has not truly recognized themselves. Also, try to conform to the idealized standards of the other party as much as possible, which over time increases psychological pressure and may even lead to a lack of security. In fact, having some admiration for a partner can elevate emotions, but it is important to control it.
4. Different memories of important things
The different memories of past events between spouses often affect the marital relationship, such as purchasing a house, car, or getting engaged. Both men and women should communicate seriously and reach an agreement to avoid conflicts when recalling in the future.
5. Lack of a certain level of curiosity
In fact, maintaining curiosity can indeed bring miracles to marriage. Generally, people with high curiosity will see difficulties as challenges, not threats. They are good at communication and exchange, have flexible thinking, and can view problems from multiple perspectives. When encountering difficulties in marriage, I will think curiously and find solutions to make the relationship even hotter.
6. Very concerned about whether the partnership is close or not
In marital relationships, both men and women pay special attention to their own position in the other person's heart. They share more common activities and experiences, which naturally exudes a sense of closeness and should not be forced.
