Post Date September, 03 2023
In the age range of 40 for males and 37 for females, the appearance of couples is common. A survey shows that due to poor communication between spouses over trivial matters, divorce accounts for 20% of the total number of divorces. The accumulation of fuel, rice, oil, and salt from years of marriage has become the most hurtful tool.
The first three years of marriage are the period of adjustment, the seventh year is the period of danger, and the tenth year is the period of fatigue. The marriage age for men aged 40 and women aged 37 is generally around 10 years. For the first 2 or 3 years, everyone is in a period of adjustment, knowing that there is also a sense of inclusivity in 6 or 7 years, so it is dangerous to have a cautious heart. After 10 years, everyone feels that the other person is like their left and right hands, and family relationships have replaced love. Therefore, even small things that were not problematic before will make noise, and arguments will become more frequent, which is very hurtful. In addition, after 10 years of marriage, there are significant differences in the shape and interpersonal behavior of the couple compared to when they got married. The differences in personality, outlook on life, money, attitude towards educating children, and ways of dealing with stress between the two have been exposed without reservation during this period, and any of these problems are enough to paralyze marriage.
The longer you get married, the more accustomed you become to the other person, the easier it is to overlook the importance of their understanding, and the colder your relationship becomes. No matter what problems arise, both spouses should communicate openly, and avoiding problems is not the solution.
External temptation leads to infidelity
After 10 years of ups and downs in marriage, the passion gradually dissipates. If the emotions of both parties in the marriage are not adjusted in a timely manner, it may create opportunities for the appearance of an affair.
At the age of 40, men have overcome the childishness and fanaticism of youth, possess the talents and experience of middle-aged people, and are wise in reviewing the current situation. These mature manifestations continue to emerge in their careers, attracting the admiration of young opposite sex. On the other hand, they are increasingly unable to meet the needs of a safe and stable situation and seek changes. If the wife does not adjust her state in a timely manner at this time, middle-aged men will be attracted to the young women around him, and their relationship will be derailed. Many of them even demand a divorce from their wives.
After the passion fades, there are two types of performance for women in their thirties and forties. Some people, like men, are dissatisfied with their current situation. They mostly seek comfort pills from their colleagues and friends around them, and there are also areas where they may develop into divorce. Another is to consider various factors, strive to save the marriage, and silently endure the boring life without emotions.
Uncoordinated sexual activity separates the two
The difference in sexual ability between men and women is also the reason for the problems in marriage nowadays. Professor Zhu said that on the one hand, when women are 34 years old, their performance and desires are strongest. Their middle-aged husbands face a decline in performance, and some even suffer from erectile dysfunction and refuse treatment. This can cause discord between the two, and in severe cases, women may actively request divorce.
On the other hand, middle-aged women in this age group may go to the other extreme of severe sexual decline due to factors such as taking care of children and deteriorating health. If the husband's sexual desire is still strong, it will become an excuse for him to cheat.
Marriage is like this, full of uncertainties. Couples who have been married for ten years should not only be prepared for emotional accidents, but also pay attention to management to ensure the stability of their marriage.
