Post Date April, 15 2023
Women's first sexual life is influenced by various factors, which can lead to different sexual psychology. These categories of sexual psychology can be roughly divided into two types, one is positive and the other is negative, which is closely related to the emotions of both parties. That is to say, although most women experience bleeding and varying degrees of pain for the first time, due to the good relationship between sexual partners, women view this experience as an obligation and therefore develop a sense of belonging; If the relationship between both parties is not good, it will exacerbate the sense of disgust.
1、 The first experience is mainly based on positive feelings - a sense of obligation and belonging
The first sexual experience is very painful, especially painful. I really accept it entirely for the sake of love, because love requires patience and effort. He couldn't bear it anymore and said, 'It's okay to see your pain like that.'. After completing it for the first time, I feel like everyone in the world has changed. When you see someone on the street, you think, 'He will do that at night, as if he has seen the other side of the person.'
We haven't been successful in our sexual life since we got married, and it took us several days to succeed. We didn't have much pleasure, only felt satisfied psychologically
After we registered, we had sexual intercourse, and the wedding had not yet taken place. The first time I felt nothing but pain. There is a feeling that I am an adult from now on
Our first time didn't feel much, we felt a bit nervous and didn't feel much pain, so we came over in a daze
My first sexual experience was at the age of 21, before marriage. I didn't feel particularly painful I didn't have sex with him before we got married. Before marriage, he was worried about his own health, feeling that he was too old (in his thirties), mentally weak, and sentimental. He had a lot of psychological pressure on his wedding day. Shooted that night without putting it in. He said at the time, 'I can't do it, we have to get divorced.'. It took about a month after marriage to truly make it. I feel a little pain and have shed some blood. He has a small penis and is not physically strong, so he has a lot of psychological pressure
The first time it was particularly painful, and sometimes it hurts afterwards Neither he nor I can do it the first time. My wife has impeccable moral qualities. Their family was a revolutionary family, and they didn't talk about anything except orthodox education, so we didn't understand anything at all. We didn't even know we had to have sex, and at that time, we couldn't find any books, and our mother didn't tell us. The first time he couldn't find a place. I was in great pain at the time, and in the end, it was finally done. Turn on the light, look at the blood, and he said, 'Are you still a virgin?'. At that time, someone in the factory said that I was not serious and had a bad reputation. "" Of course, my first sexual intercourse was after marriage, and I didn't feel any pain. At first, he was unskilled. It seems that the hymen was broken later. "
I remember the first time I didn't let him do this, I could do anything else I wanted because I didn't want children. He said it's rare for someone like me. Later, I took the contraceptive pill before I dared to do it. I don't have much impression of this for the first time. It doesn't seem to hurt, and I don't know about having an orgasm. He doesn't know either
A woman who gave her first time to a married man described her feelings as follows: "That day he came to my dormitory, it was my first sexual encounter. He pressed me onto the bed and there was a slight pain after entering. Before that, I only knew that men wanted to enter women's bodies, but I didn't know where to go. After he entered, I had a feeling of integration between the two of them. I think that means we're going to live together, with a feeling of 'I'm his person'
2、 The first experience is mainly negative feelings - aversion
Most women who experience disgust and pain when recalling their first sexual experience are either divorced or have a bad relationship with their husbands. From this perspective, sexual life and marital relationships are closely related, but it is difficult to determine which one is the cause or effect of the two; It is highly likely that it is a mutual cause and effect - feeling disgusted with sexual life because of a bad relationship; And because of a bad impression of sexual life, it exacerbates the deterioration of marital relationships.
A divorced woman recalls her first sexual experience like this: 'The first sexual experience feels too bad.'. I haven't had a romantic relationship with him before we got married. I didn't really like him from the beginning and felt quite awkward. He urinated all over me in his first sexual intercourse, which left a terrible impression on me. I never liked sex afterwards. I have never been touched or loved by anyone, only the feeling of being humiliated
The first time was very painful and bleeding, not very successful. He didn't make me sleep much that night and did it four times. The last time I cried, I sat up and said to him, 'What are you doing?'! The pain persisted for the next few days, and it stopped after a month
The first time he didn't feel any pain, it was premature ejaculation. I'm quite disgusted, although I didn't say it, he can feel it. So far this time, I have not seen male genitalia, only children, and I feel quite stimulated
The first time I was very scared, I felt pain, I also felt shocked, disliked, unhappy, and uncomfortable. The most I like about men is just a hug, a caress, and that's all
Some women have a bad feeling about their first experience, not because of their aversion to the situation itself, but because the object of their first sexual relationship is not their husband but their lover, and there is too much psychological pressure: "My first time was not with my husband. At that time, I was no longer young. I remember when we kissed, I was very scared and hated them, feeling like they had hurt me. I feel that it is an instinctive fear, invisibly related to the Chinese style education I received from a young age. I initially rejected this matter. He begged me, but I kept refusing until I couldn't resist it. In fact, his traditional moral concepts are also very strong. We are just ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend, he has a wife. I still value the first time very much
Although women have different feelings about their first sexual experience, they mostly value it because it is the "first time" in their life experience. There are many "firsts" in a person's life, and I remember a mother who said how she observed her children with joy: the first time she spoke, the first time she walked, the first time she could read, and so on. However, in the minds of many women, the first sexual encounter has a different meaning from other 'firsts' - losing virginity, becoming' adults', becoming a different kind of person from before; This feeling should be seen primarily as originating from psychology, rather than physiology. That is to say, the difference between this "first time" and other "first times" mainly comes from social norms and the special significance that society assigns to sexual behavior.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
