Post Date April, 15 2023
He looks beautiful and has a good career. During a blind date, he asked the girl, "Can you wipe the floor on your knees?"
The girls looked at him with wide eyes.
I asked him, "Do you want your girlfriend to wipe the floor on her knees?"
He said, "Yes, my mother did this. She separated from my father when I was a child. She had to do all the housework in addition to work to support me. It was very hard. She did the housework very carefully. She must wipe the floor on her knees and refused to use a vacuum cleaner, so that she could clean it. I was always moved to cry when I saw her kneeling to wipe the floor. I hope my future wife can be like her."
On that day, he did not get the favor of any girl.
In his twenties, he was puzzled and asked me, "Are girls so virtuous now?"
I sincerely said to him, no. However, if he wants to make a better impression on the girl when he meets her for the first time, he'd better not say suggestive words like "looking for a free nanny". Which young girl was not brought up by her parents? Even if she likes to do housework and is used to cleaning the floor on her knees, she doesn't want to conform to his "motherly image" before falling in love with a man. She wants to find a man who loves her, not a man who will only use her as a floor cleaner.
In addition, as long as a man says anything that implies "I want you to be like my mother", most girls will be afraid of continuing with him. This kind of taboo language includes "I hope you learn more about cooking with my mother", "My mother doesn't do that"... Men are careless when they say it, but they feel uncomfortable when they listen to women.
Men also don't like to let women compare themselves with her father, such as "My father is irresponsible, you can't be like him", "My father comes home on time every night, why do you always like to hang out?"
Father or mother is often used as a "love ruler", and many people will blurt out similar words without noticing. These words are hurtful and lack basic respect for others. Try to think from the other side's point of view, and you will understand that these words almost completely negate the existence value of the other side, and the other side will feel that they are belittled, ignored, and used as tools.
Up to now, I have seen a lot of people who demand their other half with "rigid dogma" and "high standard of traditional family". Such people are stubborn, and even the details are difficult to communicate, and it will be even more difficult to compromise. When you are with them, you should be prepared: he looks for a partner with his holy and inviolable image of a loving father or mother. No matter how hard you work, it is difficult to meet his standards.
