To satisfy my desire for money, I invested my family's funds, but the result made me angry and frustrated. I dare not tell my husband

My husband and I have been married for about five years. We have a three year old daughter who bought a house last year and renovated it at the end of the year. We moved in in May. Buying a house almost emptied our finances, and families that are already not wealthy are now even more impoverished. Fortunately, both of us have jobs, and my salary is 5000 yuan. When he worked in sales, his performance was several times that of me. On days when you don't have to pay rent, you can stay at your own house and save some money. The money of the two of us is placed in one account and I will take care of it.

We are all nine to five office workers. I said we work as administrative supervisors, while our husband works as sales managers. We focus on performance, and apart from a base salary of 4000, everything else depends on our own performance. Whenever he performs well, he jokes on me and praises himself for making money. In the future, I will follow him without worrying about food and clothing. As I spoke, I didn't forget to laugh at me: why is the gap so big for the same college graduate. Speaking unintentionally, the listener has a heart. I feel very embarrassed, and I also feel that only by earning money can he be impressed.

What first came to my mind was the matter of raising my salary to the leader. I have been working here for several years and have always been honest and never asked for anything. The matter of raising my salary was still two years ago. The leader spoke ambiguously, first analyzing the market prospects of my company, and then conducting a brainwashing conversation for me. I couldn't hear a word, and the thought of my husband mocking me made me feel very uneasy. After a long time of adjustment, he added 500 yuan to me with an unhappy expression on his face.

I was about to leave when he called me out again, saying that one of his relatives worked in finance and put the money in, with an interest rate three times higher than the bank's. I stopped my steps as soon as I heard it. He began to explain to me in detail, but I was so engrossed in listening that I returned home and began rummaging through boxes and cabinets to find my passbook. At first, I had a trial mentality and invested 5000 yuan. A month later, my boss gave me the principal and interest, and I was excited and cheered. So, I confidently invested all the money in my family.

I hope to double my money every day, but within half a month, my boss anxiously told me that his relative's company has gone bankrupt, and I'm afraid I won't be able to get my money out for a while. I was stunned by what I heard at the time. I originally wanted to show off in front of my husband, but now I can't accept the situation. I've invested at least 100000 yuan in it all.

I was so anxious that I shed tears, my brain stopped working, and the leader took the initiative to comfort me, hug me, and touch me. Suddenly, I realized his misconduct and repeatedly pushed him away. He hinted to me that if I had a good relationship with him, he would find a way to help me recover the money. I was too scared to move. If it weren't for my colleague who works the evening shift, I estimate he would be able to knock me down in the office. I dare not tell my husband now that the money is gone and people have been taken advantage of. How should I speak out about these difficult words. What should I do?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

From your account, it can be seen that you have lost your mind under the temptation of money for the so-called family status and dignity. Unreasonable behavior is easily controlled by people with ulterior motives. The onlooker sees clearly, the observer is confused, and continuing will only cause harm to your marriage. At this point, it is important to communicate with your husband in a timely manner, analyze the interests involved, and not make things worse just because you are afraid of losing face or getting divorced. What if you agreed to the leader's request and he retracted? At present, we can only rely on collecting evidence, using legal weapons, and protecting our own rights and interests. Don't lose your best time because you are afraid of conflicts in your marriage.