As the saying goes, husband and wife are birds in the same forest, flying separately in the face of disaster. This sentence points out the problem of marriage, but how this problem is caused? Few people care about it, only focusing on the outcome. In fact, problems in marriage do not happen overnight, they are all accumulated through small things. Ignorance by both spouses also leads to emotional breakdown, and ultimately separation. Therefore, couples should learn to get along and deal with the small problems that arise in marriage.
Self ridicule vs scolding
The husband instructed his wife to learn how to ride a car, and after a long talk, she still didn't grasp the essentials. The husband couldn't help scolding her, saying, "Why are you so stupid when I say you are leaning towards the west? How could I marry such a stupid woman to be my wife?" The wife was also very unhappy after hearing this, but on second thought, she really didn't dare to compliment her car skills, "I'm really stupid, but how happy I am to have married such a clever husband as you!" The husband was embarrassed when his wife said this, and patiently taught his wife how to ride a car until she dared to drive independently.
Tolerate V.S. nagging
Like all wives, she likes to nag, nagging her husband about her children, and her voice fills the house. When nagging became a wife's habit, the husband kindly said, "I think your nagging is like a beautiful essay. I suggest you establish a blog and record these essays, perhaps you will soon become a writer!" The wife felt that the husband made sense and quickly established a "nagging blog" under the guidance of her husband. Unexpectedly, these nagging has gained the favor of the majority of women, with a high click rate on the blog. My wife has turned the nagging in life into blog nagging, and also into prose in the newspaper. It's really possible to become a writer!
Appreciate V.S. quarrels
Couples sometimes quarrel, and some people get angry after a quarrel, ignore them for a period of time, and wait for the other party to apologize, causing the other party to lose patience. Some people look for each other's shortcomings after a couple quarrel and attack them one by one, regretting this marriage every time they think of a shortcoming. Over time, relationships can easily break down. There is a woman who, whenever there is a conflict between husband and wife, takes out a blank sheet of paper and lists the areas where her husband has behaved well in recent times, and then puts it on his desk. "When a husband sees the" Appreciation List "written to him by his wife, he will also appreciate her strengths and reflect on his own shortcomings. The two quickly resolve the conflict.". Because they often appreciate each other, their relationship becomes more and more harmonious.
Misunderstanding of SMS V.S
Couples are prone to misunderstandings due to some cognitive biases. For example, if the wife does household chores every day, and the husband comes home from work all day, he doesn't want to do anything. The wife thought, "If you don't help me with anything, it means you don't love me." So she complained to her husband. The husband felt that he had been working hard all day, and his wife was angry because she didn't understand or understand him. Misunderstanding between the two leads to communication barriers and conflicts. Later, the husband sent a text message to his wife, saying, "I worked hard all day, and when I came home, I really enjoyed the food you cooked. I know you worked hard, too. Thank you, wife!" The wife looked at it and thought that the husband liked himself, and also sent a text message to express her understanding of her husband. Many times, written expressions between couples are much warmer than oral expressions, which can promote mutual understanding and enhance their feelings.
Editor's Note: As the most intimate person, a couple should not think about what the other person should do. Instead, they should think from the other person's perspective, understand the other person, and resolve their problems in clever ways.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)