Sexual Health
The three biggest sexual misconceptions that men and women are most likely to fall into must be avoided
1、 Overly narrow-minded understanding of sexual activity in couples' sexual life can lead to male ejaculation, but this is neither the entire content of sexual activity nor its primary goal. Sexual activity is a vehicle for expressing love. It must include a pre psychological preparation stage, and the quality of the final result largely depends on whether the preparation stage is appropriate and sufficient. Some husbands view their physiological processes as primary and non adjustable, often resulting in being too eager, rough, and simple. In urban couples in China, one quarter have never kissed each other, and more than half have never deeply kissed; 41% -53% do not touch their wives at all.
However, at the same time, 83% of people believe that their marriage is either very satisfactory or relatively satisfactory.
2、 Overemphasizing the role of sexual techniques can have beneficial effects in specific situations of couples, and extremely appropriate sexual techniques can have beneficial effects. But we must also not forget that sexual skills must have four fundamental prerequisites: firstly, both spouses must be absolutely willing and truly needed. Otherwise, not only will it violate the other party's personal dignity, but it will also cause psychological harm to both parties, and it will definitely not have a good effect. Secondly, the marital relationship must be quite good.
Thirdly, the level of sexual knowledge and attitudes between both parties must be very consistent. Fourthly, the sexual techniques used must have undergone rigorous scientific testing and demonstrated their applicability in clinical medicine. Any inconsistency in marital emotions and knowledge, as well as any hearsay or partial understanding, can have the opposite negative effect on sexual skills. Especially important, sexual techniques themselves cannot create feelings of love and concern, nor can they fully communicate and communicate. In our country, at least half of the wives neither need nor appreciate their husbands' sexual skills. They particularly resent their husbands treating themselves as some kind of tool or stage, allowing men to blindly use or perform there. In this situation, couples will only become increasingly estranged, indifferent, and even in conflict. As every happy couple knows, the most advanced and versatile sexual technique is not actually the movement but the soul, which is to pour and condense as much true love, attachment, intimacy, and concern into sexual life as possible.
3、 There is a public opinion among men who place excessive emphasis on the frequency and frequency of sexual activity. It seems that the more sexual activity they have, the more qualified and masculine they are; His wife became more satisfied and happy. On the other hand, husbands who have less frequency are said to be unable to serve (or deal with) their wives, and are considered less masculine. In fact, most wives do not think so. Compared to sexual life, according to an expert survey of 1279 couples in 31 large and medium-sized cities (based on this survey), 78% of wives value the former more than the latter. Compared to the quality of sexual life (how much orgasm a wife can get from it), 85% of wives prefer to achieve high quality rather than large quantities.
Men's sexual practices are not necessarily more beneficial. Between the ages of 30 and 35, more than half of husbands experience a subtle change in their sexual needs, shifting from requiring a large quantity to seeking high quality, hoping for deeper emotional communication and experience. Therefore, if a man conceptually believes that the frequency of sexual activity is the main or even the only measure of marital harmony, he is likely to make two behavioral mistakes.
Firstly, he may overlook or deny his wife's emotional needs, simplify sexual life into a series of actions, and in severe cases, greatly harm her personality and emotions.
Secondly, he may invisibly increase his psychological burden. Once one is older or encounters special circumstances that prevent them from maintaining the high frequency they believe, they may suspect that they have erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, may be afraid of apologizing to their wife, and may even have doubts or disappointments about their entire personality and life goals. As a result, the stronger one is, the less they can withstand accidents. In fact, the frequency of men's sexual activity is basically determined by their physiological condition and age. It is similar among all ethnic groups around the world, and almost every man's life has some periods that are few, while others are many. There is no question of how many times a man should have sex. The sexual charm of men mainly lies in their mature personality, understanding and broad mindedness, and deep emotional persistence. If you don't pay attention to these aspects of cultivation, but only care about or boast about the frequency of sex, then men will find it difficult to get out of the misconceptions of sexual life.