Post Date September, 03 2023
The reason why you become a leftover woman is that if a woman wants to find true love, she must eliminate five thoughts, which will make you an older leftover woman. Let's take a look together!
Love is a destined fate
Qi Qin once sincerely talked about his sister Qi Yu, believing that her talent was far superior to himself. But she is such an intelligent woman, yet she has always been lonely on her emotional journey. In a TV interview, when discussing emotional issues, she hugged her shoulder and smiled slightly: Love may have to wait for a lifetime!
Wait, there will always be a 100% perfect lover, holding a red rose in hand, standing at the turning point of fate and waiting. So, our eyes unconsciously became picky: A smokes too much and lacks manners; B walks with some outward lines, which hinders the view; C has excellent appearance and career, but he is dull and unable to understand his charm Some minor flaws can also become reasons for the opponent to be eliminated.
We do not regret it because we firmly believe that in the near future, we will inevitably encounter our Mr. Right. Perhaps I can really meet a perfect man - unfortunately, the other person often has another person in their heart. So we thought to ourselves, 'Only he is the most suitable for me, it's fate. As long as we wait, there will be results.'.
But time waits for no one. Until the crow's feet appeared in the corners of their eyes, and when no more men were paying attention to them, they began to feel regretful: the first nitpicking of A, B, and C, which were not eye-catching, turned out to be 70%, 80%, or even 90% of lovers. Looking back at that sentence, ah, it turned out to be just saying that it's best to meet the right person at the right time. If you can't, it's better to take second place.
Unfortunately, many women, even if they stick to their destined fate, are unwilling to seek second place even if they die. In the early 1990s, when the TV series "Tokyo Love Story" became popular throughout China, everyone felt sorry for being optimistic, innocent, and in love with Wanzhi, and ultimately ended up feeling lonely. We hate the man she loves who is so ignorant of style and chooses another hypocritical woman, causing the lovely woman to suffer for a lifetime. But love is inherently unreasonable. Although Li Xiang's eyes are 100% of him, his heart is only another woman. Lixiang's persistence moved us to tears for her, but it was herself who was hurt.
From a different perspective, in fact, during the time she left, there were many talented young people around her, over 70% of whom could live happily and harmoniously. Women like Qi Yu may still have talent and books to fill in the days. How can ordinary people like you and me face the coldness of a white haired room? In fact, after marriage, it was no longer about love. Two people working together to wrap a blanket on a cold winter day is already the greatest happiness. The destined fate, in the end, must be found in order to truly belong to you.
He falls in love with your inner self, not your appearance
Despite the wonderful use of cosmetics to turn decay into magic, beautiful women are still a minority. For an ordinary woman with an average appearance, the most tempting dream is that she falls in love with your inner self, not your appearance.
There is no story that excites women more than "Jane Eyre", because it is a plain looking woman, not a beautiful woman, who becomes the female protagonist and receives the deepest love from men.
Jane Eyre has an ordinary appearance, but a rich heart and stubborn self-esteem. During her tenure as a governess, she secretly fell in love with her male protagonist, Mr. Rochester. Unexpectedly, her inner beauty had already deeply attracted the other party. Which woman, when she was young, did not secretly remember that stirring declaration: Do you think I am poor, unattractive, and have no emotions Our spirit is equal! Just as I walked through the grave with you and stood before God the same
The shocking love story makes us believe that those truly thoughtful and tasteful men will have a unique vision to abandon everything external and fall in love with us only for the sake of our inner selves. Is that really the case? When Jane Eyre finally stayed with Rochester, he had lost his property and could no longer see beauty or ugliness in his eyes. Otherwise, who can guarantee that he won't fall in love again and have a child with another beautiful Miss Ingram?
Women who read a lot are most likely to overestimate the charm of inner beauty on men, and my second cousin is one of them. The second cousin is a master's degree graduate from the University of Political Science and Law, a practicing lawyer, and is shrewd and capable. During her university years, even among the few female students at the University of Political Science and Law, her appearance was at a lower average level. But this cannot erase her confidence. She despises those beautiful women with chests and brains who are surrounded by men, believing that they have beauty but no soul. Indeed, her inner richness was gone, but the fact turned her face pale.
She used to have a male classmate who was outstanding in all aspects and had a good relationship with each other, but never entered a substantial relationship. Does he love her? For at least a few years, she believed so. But after a long and uneasy relationship, the male classmate unexpectedly married a beautiful woman who was 7 years younger than him. Faced with her disappointment, he expressed regret: You are my confidant, and we will be lifelong friends. Beauty confidant? This is a great satire on my second cousin. She finally understood why there were so many beautiful stories about heroes loving beautiful women, but Zhuge Liang's act of marrying an ugly wife has been unique for thousands of years.
In the eyes of most men, ugly women are not worthy of love - ignorant little boys on campus also know how to make fun of slightly less attractive female classmates: dinosaurs. You can say that men's vanity is superficial, but in the face of awkward reality, we have to admit that in the eyes of men, primitive desires always outweigh spiritual appreciation. In the matter of selecting a partner for a relationship to inherit a family, beautiful women always take advantage. If one day a man declares that he has fallen in love with your inner self, perhaps what you should see clearly is his inner self.
Without him, I don't know how to survive
In the social news section of the newspaper, there will definitely be news of a certain woman climbing onto the roof of a building to commit suicide within three days. Everyone put in a lot of effort to save her, and what they often hear is this sentence: He doesn't want me anymore, without him, I don't know how to survive.
Not long ago, it was Lin Qingxia's 50th birthday, and many media outlets have created a special topic for her 50th birthday. Nowadays, Lin Qingxia has everything and is still beautiful. Everyone knows that the person she married was not the romantic young man Qin and Han who had been entangled for eighteen years, but she was very happy.
So I had to think of another woman - Weng Meiling, who had disappeared in this world for a long time. Those who have watched the 1983 version of "The Legend of Condor Heroes" will definitely not forget her, that irreplaceable and charming Huang Rong. But just as she was emerging in her career, she committed suicide for love. Do you think it's not worth it? Do you think it's stupid? You can think this way when you are calm and calm.
But have you really never had a similar idea? After falling in love, lying alone in bed, did you also think: let me sleep through and never wake up? This nightmare, most people can finally break free; Another part of the population, however, ended up with nightmares and became bloody victims. The victim leaves behind everything in the world, irreparable, and anything else is unnecessary.
What is terrifying is that those who survive often self harm and abuse themselves, self abandonment, and even the slightest, self blame and self pity. At the best age of a woman, they make themselves look inadequate: either they proclaim themselves as resentful wives and abandoned wives everywhere like Xianglin sister-in-law; Either it's gloomy all day long, with a face filled with the vicissitudes of the past. Is that interesting? When I get old, I understand now. Looking back on that time, I'm afraid there's only shame and regret left, right?
Today, nearly twenty years after Weng Meiling committed suicide, I saw Tang Zhenye in a second rate film - the man who reportedly caused Weng Meiling to commit suicide. When I mentioned the past to the young girl, she exclaimed in surprise at the age of sixteen, 'Ah?'? Just for this pig headed old man? A sentence made my heart ache. When Tang Zhenye was young, he was naturally a handsome young master, otherwise Weng Meiling would never have loved him to the point of being inseparable. However, if Weng Meiling could see Tang Zhenye today, I believe she would not commit suicide. Perhaps she wouldn't be so mean, saying that Tang Zhenye, who had made a fortune, was an old man with a pig's head. However, she would find that he was just an ordinary man, and that she had died in the first place because she couldn't be with him.
In love, do you also feel that the man you love is the best man in the world, whether it's him or not? He is unique, without him, your life would be pitch black? In fact, that's because there's a light on him, which confuses your eyes. But that is not his own light, but the light of love.
The radiance of love sets an ordinary person apart, and ordinary people are their true colors. Believe me, if you feel like you can't live without someone, you just need to wait for some time. It can be as short as three to five months, but not as long as three to five years. The light of love will surely fade from him. At that time, you will realize that he is actually just a man, and if he is good, he is just a decent ordinary man. If he is not good, you will find in him the shortcomings that make you regret it, and this is the power of time. In this world, there is no one who cannot live without him, unless he is the God who provides you with water, air, sunshine, and food.
So, don't believe the foolish words that I can't live without you. Just talk about it when you're in love, don't take it seriously.
I will be his last woman
The man who dundun abalone and shark fin must especially cherish the dishes of clear Congee. So, despite his romantic nature and his fame, you can't stop dreaming of him: I will be his last woman.
A famous wealthy man in Macau, in today's monogamous society, openly married one wife after another. When the reporter interviewed his fourth wife, the beautiful woman from Guangdong who was good at dancing confidently said, 'I will be his last woman.'.
Perhaps you are not so beautiful, and the man you love is not so rich, but do you never have the same fantasy about him? I will be his last woman. The last one is most worthy of cherishing. No matter how many experiences he has had before, as long as he meets you, everything becomes a prelude to the music. Only you are the most suitable ending for him.
