Post Date April, 15 2023
Some female compatriots have summarized that the favorite words spoken by men before marriage are: "I love you." And the favorite words spoken by men after marriage are: "Don't wait for me." The same "Three Character Classic" has a very different taste in women's hearts.
Thinking back then, due to his vow of 'I only wish this life to be together', the woman, with tears in her eyes and dizziness, married him, looking forward to the unparalleled marriage of 'mountains have no tomb, and the earth is united'. But who would have thought that what would come after marriage was the cold, uninhabited dinner on the table and an equally cold heart. Are men really so busy? What are men looking for in the night?
The nature of work determines the mode of work
Mr. Wang, 40 years old, manager of a computer company
Those who work in our industry really feel guilty when it comes to wives and children. I can't have a few dinners at home a year. Not only do I socialize with clients, but sometimes I have to cater to them in order to attract big clients, such as playing bowling, playing mahjong, and karaoke with them. Sometimes I just stay up all night and come home in the morning just in time for my wife to work and my children to go to school. Sometimes I see this side in one day.
My wife and children are also used to it now. I understand, but if I don't understand, I can't help it. The nature of my work determines the way I work. Occasionally, I go back early to have dinner with them, and they are all so happy that they feel a bit overjoyed. This moved and saddened me. Although it provided them with good material conditions, I also knew that what they needed more was a "husband" and "father". I can't help it. Since ancient times, loyalty and filial piety have not been mutually beneficial. I'll make up for it when I quit this profession.
In fact, my wife is also worried, 'If I don't come back all night, I won't be stuck by any woman, will I?' She often asks me half truthfully. We can only explain and explain with an excellent attitude. After all, it is impossible for any wife to have no doubt or desire in this situation. This indicates that she cares about us, cares about us, and we should know this bad thing and not be annoyed. And she reminded me to reduce the chances of making mistakes. In today's society, there are too many temptations, and my wife should be more strict in her management.
The outside world is exciting, and the nights at home are monotonous
Mr. Dai, 29 years old, employee of a futures company
To be honest, I often come back late, sometimes because of necessary socializing, and sometimes because I want to find excuses not to go home. Why? In this sentence, it can be summarized as follows: the outside world is exciting, and the nights at home are monotonous.
My house is not big, with three rooms, a total of only about 50 square meters, but we live together as a couple, a one year old child, and a nanny. We gathered at night, it was really full, I didn't even dare to take big steps when walking. In addition, when the child cries and the wife and nanny are busy, alas, I, as an old man, always look at excess.
Why not take care of the child at home? I also want to, but that little guy won't let anyone hold him when he has his mother. Besides, taking care of children is not as good as taking care of men as women. They are clumsy and can't do it well, so my wife is in a hurry. She thinks I can't do anything, so it's better to stay there and wait for training than to escape. Of course, I have to find a reason. I'm working overtime, my buddies are having a party, and she can't care about me anyway.
Going out usually involves gathering with friends, drinking alcohol, playing cards, surfing the internet, chatting, and sometimes going to a dance hall to have a good time. My wife sometimes gets angry because I often come back late and calls me on her phone. At this point, she can't go back immediately, otherwise it's just a scolding. When her anger subsides, the child goes to bed, and she's tired, she can go back. With a few sweet words, it's easy to get over it.
Sometimes I really miss falling in love with my wife and when I first got married, how wonderful the world was for the two of us at that time. After work in the evening, either we come back together to cook, or we go for a stroll on the street. After dinner, we watch a movie together, which is called colorful. Now, as soon as the little guy is born, his wife quickly enters the role of "mother". After working all day, he holds his son and shouts "sweetheart", making me an unnecessary person. Hehe, don't say it, I really feel a bit jealous of my son.
If we move to a big house next year and the children become older, it may be better. Actually, I really want to be with their mother.
Just to make a name for it earlier
Mr. Li, 32 years old, civil servant
As a civil servant, there seems to be no reason to often return late. In people's minds, civil servants are "on duty". They come to work and leave after work, and there are no special circumstances when they should return home on time. But I often come back late, sometimes working overtime to write materials for my leaders, and sometimes reading books and recharging myself in the office. I am currently studying both a second degree self-study and a graduate program, with many books to read and papers to write. I have to work overtime at night.
I am a person with a strong sense of professionalism. Currently, there is fierce social competition and pressure, so I can't do it myself without taking action. Besides, there is also a heavy family responsibility on my shoulders. My lover and I are college classmates, and she is also a very ambitious person who supports me very much. The child is still young and is attending kindergarten. Both parents are out of town, and our family cannot do without her. In order to keep me focused on my work, she has taken on all the household chores, and I am very grateful to her.
I think when my child goes to school and I make some achievements, I will also give her a chance to reduce stress and enrich herself. At that time, she might have returned late.
