The More Skills You Have, the happier Sex You Are? There are More Varieties in Sexual Life, Be Careful of Triumph

In most cases, sexual skills only focus on the connection between sexual stimulation and sexual response, which can easily lead to a disconnect between sex and love, which is not conducive to expressing the care and favor between couples. This is like relying too much on sexual tools, which is not conducive to emotional communication between couples. Because sex requires the wholehearted commitment of both men and women, including emotional cultivation, mutual understanding of the opposite sex world, and coordination and cultivation of sexual psychology. In this process, sexual skills are at best a carrier!

Moreover, there are often times when sexual skills fail or even become awkward! A middle-aged man once talked to the author with emotion that he had always thought that his breasts were a sensitive part of his wife's sex. It was not until recently that he realized that she actually preferred him to caress her back! And the back is clearly not a traditional sense of sexual sensitivity. So he said, it's hard to guess a woman's sexual thoughts!

There is also a young woman who has done a "big injustice"! Her original intention was to reduce a little pain during her first sexual encounter on her wedding night. So she specifically flipped through some books on sexual skills, which said that if women can adopt a positive and proactive attitude in their sexual life, allowing their bodies to "warm up" first, they can have more joy, less pain and trouble! However, after she followed the rules, her husband had no reason to suspect that she had had sexual experience - infidelity!

This doesn't even count! There is also a husband who is particularly passionate about cultivating sexual skills. Every time he has sex, he must use at least 3-5 different caressing methods, let alone frequently changing his sexual position and stimulation methods. But his wife's true feeling was' tossing around! '. The reason is actually easy to understand, because whether men or women want to achieve orgasm, they must rely on short and uninterrupted pressure, as well as continuous and rhythmic stimulation. If the sexual stimulation mode is frequently changed, the intensity of each individual stimulation mode will decrease, which is not conducive to the arrival of orgasm. Moreover, excessive emphasis on sexual skills can also create intangible pressure on both spouses. For example, if one party uses sexual skills, they may worry that their skills are not good, and the other party may suspect that their sexual response has gone wrong!

In short, the use of sexual skills must follow the principles of mutual willingness, genuine need, emphasis on communication, and moderate use, and cannot be solely based on skills!