Many women have long believed that men have a congenital "phone aversion" - a reluctance to use the phone too much, and a reluctance to talk too much on the phone. However, with the surging tide of mobile communication, a new set of "telephone rules" is also quietly forming. Fundamentally, today's men are no longer as "hard to find" as they used to be, and they are increasingly willing to chat on the phone, although most of them still cannot accept the usual 20 minute, half hour chat routine. But at the same time, we are also more confused about other things - he clearly has a mobile phone, why not give me a call? Should I take the initiative to call him, or send him a text message or email? The following article will reveal men's telephone habits and all the things they need to pay attention to in order to maintain good communication with them.
Break the message password
Find out the secrets behind the three most common but confusing voice messages
·Stuttering and incoherent speech patterns
"Hello, ah, it's me. What's that? Just make a phone call to see if you're in. There's nothing wrong, and I'll leave a message for you..."
Nervousness is the biggest characteristic of this type of message, which indicates that he cares about you very much, and he also cares about the impression he leaves on you.
·Pure business type
"It's me. Call me back as soon as possible, Bye!"
Women often find this tone too harsh and rude. But don't forget, this is how men usually use the phone. In their eyes, the phone is just a tool for quickly transmitting information. Don't care about formal things, what you need to care about is that he obviously wants to talk to you.
·Unconscious
"I'm out with my friends, but I want to call you, say hello, and listen to your voice. That's it, bye!"
What does he mean? Want me to call him back? Jealous of me going out with someone else? The answers to all these questions seem to be ambiguous, with only one thing for sure - although he is with others, he still thinks about you in his heart - he likes you and doesn't run.
The "Telephone Law" of Men: Interpretation of Telephone Etiquette
·He was obviously interested in me, but he was hesitant to take the initiative.
What can I do to get him to ask me for my phone number? "You know, many men are shy, and many men are too" dumb "to understand your cues. These two types of men usually don't take the initiative without 100% confidence that you are willing to tell them your phone number.". As a smart woman, of course, you need to relieve his stress. Asking for his phone number is the best strategy. "If you feel like it's a bit too 'bold' to do this, try gently clicking on this sentence during a date breakup: 'You can call me.'"
·My caller ID tells me that he called me when I was not at home, but didn't leave any messages.
Should I call him back? If so, should I mention that I knew he was calling?
It may seem like a good idea to call him on the pretext of discovering that he called you through the caller ID, but in fact, it's only a third rate method. Remember, "phone games" also have their own set of rules, especially in the early stages of a relationship between two people, it is particularly important to comply with the rules. Only after he has left you a clear message - such as leaving a message for you to call back - will it be your turn to take action.
·Does it mean he's not interested in me at all?
This is clearly not a good sign. Generally speaking, when a man is infatuated with a woman, unless all the phones at hand are broken, he can't wait to call his sweetheart. There is also a possibility that although he likes you very much, he does not know your attitude, so he hesitates and prefers to torture himself repeatedly rather than call. I advise you not to consider such an indecisive man, and let him pay the price for his incompetence!
·I have left a message on his home's recorded phone. Should I call his mobile phone again?
It depends on what kind of person he is - if he's the kind of person who would say, "Why don't you call my phone?", then everything is okay. Just call him until you find him. "If you have left a message for him before, and he has responded in the first time, there is no need to pursue him like this.". It should be noted that if you are not sure what kind of person he is, or if you have just started dating, it is better to be patient and not be too eager to succeed in this situation.
·Could calling him back later add a bit of my attraction to him?
The answer is - "Absolutely right"! When a man is troubled by the question "Does she love me? Does she not love me?", your opportunity comes! As a man, when you take the initiative to attack the unknown for the first time, his heart must be uneasy. If you forget your reserve and call back too quickly, making him realize that you are also eager (even in a hurry), he will feel that the challenge has been greatly reduced and everything will become dull.