Post Date April, 15 2023
It seems that men's infidelity has become a commonplace thing in this society. Some women even say that men are called men if they don't cheat. Of course, you can't generalize. If you find your husband cheating, what will you do?
Handle your emotions properly
Once it is confirmed that the husband has an affair, normal people will have negative emotions such as anger, humiliation, frustration, anxiety and grievance. These emotions are normal and correspond to the events. Therefore, the first step is to accept our emotions. In my consulting experience, many wives, in order to continue their struggle at this time, comforted themselves: "I am not sad, I am not angry, I am a rational person". As a result, more anger, humiliation, frustration, anxiety and grievance accumulated, and more lack of rationality and wisdom in the face of husband and affair. The second step is to have a safe emotional release, for example, you can talk to your girlfriend about your bad mood at the moment, or write a diary complaint, or beat your husband's pillow.
Make a decision for yourself
An affair has happened. Now you have only two options: First, divorce: if you want to maintain your aesthetic view of love, be a perfectionist, and never allow yourself or others to make mistakes in marriage, then choose divorce. There is no right or wrong. You are fully qualified and empowered to choose your lifestyle and marital status. However, it will be hard for you to be strict with your husband and relationship, which may lead to similar problems in future relationships. Second, accept: accepting your husband is really an affair, and accept that it is only a challenge to your marriage. Give yourself a chance to reflect and give the relationship a chance to grow.
Let her husband handle his relationship with a third party by himself
The most stable relationship is the triangular relationship. The reason why you have an affair is that your relationship with your husband is unbalanced. In order to avoid more vicious results, such as impulse, violence or divorce, you choose another person as the balance point of your relationship. If you are involved in the relationship between your husband and a third party again at the moment, it will strengthen the stability of this triangular relationship. So, at this time, what you face together means that you give your husband trust, support and time to deal with his role with a third party, rather than directly intervene, contact or negotiate with the other party.
Avoid "actively promoting an affair"
In my consulting experience, more than 50% of the evidence of an affair is collected by my wife: call records, text messages, network records, etc. Catch the wind and catch the shadow. This action infringes on the privacy of others, makes the husband feel distrust and pressure, and has an expectation effect. Well, since you hope so, I will satisfy you! Finally, the affair came true!
Pay attention to meet the psychological needs of your husband
A man's needs in marriage, such as free breathing, being respected, appreciated, worshipped, and sexual needs, can be actively satisfied as a wife's needs, which can largely maintain the balance of the relationship between husband and wife and avoid the intervention of a third party.
