Post Date April, 15 2023
Men should pay attention to the fact that after marriage, the husband and wife love each other all day long and close themselves in a small circle of personal family. The temperature of love is difficult to last. With new goals in their careers, couples can constantly deepen their understanding and overcome difficulties in the common worth and pursuit, which will bring opportunities for new emotional integration.
(1) Create mutual affection in the common pursuit of the cause.
As a kind of social emotion, Aiqian is bound to be affected by many factors such as social politics, economy and culture, and cannot be isolated from the world. Love is the driving force of career, and career is the sublimation of love. There are not many people who want their lovers to be strong, but anyone who has a sense of responsibility to the society wants their lovers to pay attention to the society, have a strong sense of career, and have a continuous pursuit of career.
Therefore, after marriage, the husband and wife love each other all day long and close themselves in a small circle of personal family. The temperature of love is difficult to last. With new goals in their careers, couples can constantly deepen their understanding and overcome difficulties in the common worth and pursuit, which will bring opportunities for new emotional integration.
(2) Add new content and find new fun.
In addition to work, study and housework, efforts should be made to add some new content to family life and create a good environment for emotional development; For example, for weekend activities, you can choose and cultivate a hobby that couples share. This will help reduce the feeling of monotony.
(3) Always pay attention to emotional communication between husband and wife.
Praise the other party, affirm or remind the other party. A look of approval, a smile of relief, and a warm praise will make the other party intoxicated. If you go out and come back, or take advantage of the other party's birthday, send a small gift, it will stir up love ripples in the heart of your lover; The wife washes clothes, and the husband goes to help; The husband sat down to write an article, and the wife sent a cup of hot tea; Before and after work, a gentle farewell and a kind greeting will make the other party feel his or her position in his or her heart and produce a sense of satisfaction.
There are many ways to transmit information and express feelings between couples. It seems that trivial trivial matters can add a touch of tenderness and attention between couples as long as they can appear in family life frequently. Special attention should be paid to the fact that after having children, the wife should never leave her husband "hanging out".
(4) Leave some space for your lover.
The combination of two sexes is the combination of feelings and life, not the dissolution of personality and personality, and neither side is the shadow of each other, so don't be forced to be inseparable. Otherwise, just as constant eating will make people lose their appetite, sticking together will also make people lose their interest. The relationship between men and women is only partially fixed. Both sides can have their own friends and hobbies, and can have more topics.
There are a few people who are difficult to accept the normal relationship between their lovers and the opposite sex, and are always worried that they will be "squeezed out" one day, so they often do some stupid things: the lovers answer a phone call from the opposite sex, or a friend of the opposite sex comes to their home, or roundly inquire about others, or look at the guests left and right; Others control the activities of the other party by announcing "discipline", including reconnaissance letters, interference in social activities, and even tracking pursuit, so that the other party has no free time and space, and so on; The result of this is that it is impossible to win the attraction of the other party. On the contrary, the parties often put themselves in a position of indifference.
Think about it this way. "Possession" is so strenuous, so tense, and so guarded. What love is there? How much love is there in a managed marriage? First of all, love is a kind of voluntary feeling. It is a strong attraction to the other party. It is also a kind of yearning that can not be pushed or cut off. Since you can win over all your competitors before marriage to achieve success in love, why don't you have such a style after marriage, and can only rely on a marriage certificate or suppress the other party's spiritual life to prolong everything you have?
(5) For yourself, for those who please yourself.
It is human nature to love beauty, both men and women. After marriage, couples should prevent their emotions and ambitions before marriage from being destroyed in the stereotyped and repetitive housework and the dull life of getting along day and night. Attention should be paid to decoration, especially after women get married, they must not regard their dedication and sacrifice to the family as their only life meaning and obligation, and ignore the richer life pursuit.
He plunged into the kitchen and played the role of "old lady", becoming disinterested or unkempt, becoming old and stiff. Even in middle age, even after entering old age, because of the physiological reasons of men and women, men's charm period is longer than that of women. At this time, more subjective efforts are needed to seek common ground between both sides with deeper love and new understanding, and reshape their own style.
No one can stay red, but "although the beauty of nature is lost, the artificial beauty is enough to compensate". Proper light makeup and clothing, coupled with dignified and elegant, deep and generous, still give people a sense of brilliance. Although temperament is said to be naturally beautiful, it is more about nurture.
(6) Have more sense of humor.
Only by being considerate can we promote mutual love. Faced with the complicated social life, especially the trivial things such as pots and pans in family life, sometimes it really needs more courage to bear difficulties and the ability to control life. Humor in the family can relieve psychological pressure, especially the humorous language in the couple's life, which can often arouse emotional waves.
Because humor is a symbol of perseverance, calm, wisdom and ability, and a mediator of family conflicts. Most people in the world have a natural instinct: they don't want to hear others blame them. The husband and wife will stay together forever, and they need mutual understanding and tolerance. There is no perfect person in the world. The hardness without softness is another kind of weakness. The subjective impatience and blame of any party between husband and wife will make the feelings tend to be flat and atrophy, which needs to be overcome.
The editor added a few words: When there is separation, there is a time to miss each other. Give each other a distance and a space to yearn and wait with tenderness. Therefore, proper parting can increase the freshness between husband and wife.
As the saying goes, "farewell is better than marriage", psychologically speaking, this is due to the artificial distance, so that the image of each other in the eyes of each other has become evergreen. It has formed a benign effect. In a sense, there is no freedom without distance, and there is no attraction without distance. The spacing of time and space often increases the intensity of love.
