Post Date April, 15 2023
Introduction: There are many women around us who are elderly leftovers, but when they reach the age of marriage and childbirth, they are still alone. How do they solve their sexual life? Enter the article together to see every day and night of urban female white-collar workers.
Lodz Female, 32, Business Planner Divorced without Childhood
I divorced in May last year. In fact, a year before the divorce, I separated from my ex husband and lived in separate beds. Sometimes he has sexual needs, and I also deal with them, because we are still legally married, but that kind of sex doesn't have any pleasure for me.
After divorce, some men have also hinted or expressed "sex" to me, but I have my own principles. One day, a male colleague who had chased me before told me that he had never forgotten me. I accepted his kiss, but held onto the final line of defense. "I know I need sex, but I can't do this with him. One is that I don't have that strong feeling for him, and the other is that his wife is also in our unit, so I can't be ashamed to meet her.".
Recently, I talked about a friend who is also divorced, and we are attracted to each other. After two months of knowing each other, he once called me to take care of his sick child at his home, and I stayed at his house that day. A busy day and mutual care have given us a sense of friendship in times of adversity, and at night we are naturally together. Although we don't know whether we will eventually come together, we are in love with each other.
Divorced single men and women are not easy, and sexually, I have always adhered to the principles of physical desire and loyalty to emotions and morality.
An Wennv, 29, unmarried (with a regular boyfriend)
My boyfriend and I have been in love for two years and have lived together for a year. Nowadays, people's attitudes towards "sex" have really changed, especially among young people, who can calmly view this issue. My point is to let nature take its course.
"When two people fall in love, it is natural for them to be physically close to each other. When they love someone, they naturally want to be close to them. I think sex is a wonderful thing as long as they are in love with each other.".
"I don't reject premarital sex, but I definitely don't approve of abusive sex. The so-called" one night stand "," sexual partner ", and the like, I'm very disgusted.". Although it is said that two people may not necessarily end up together after having sex, at least in the beginning, it is the goal to come together and strive for it. Simply for physical needs or out of loneliness, such sexual behavior is very unethical, irresponsible, and irresponsible for themselves and the other party.
My boyfriend and I are getting on very well now and have a harmonious sexual life. "We live like ordinary couples, but we don't have the trivialities of marriage. We all believe that each other is the partner we want to rely on in our lifetime, and marriage is also a matter of time. Maybe it's time for us to mature a bit, after all, love and marriage are not the same.". "But when I fall in love with my boyfriend, I absolutely won't have sexual relations with other men. I strongly reject this practice, and my feelings should be loyal, as should my body.".
Lu Ming, male, 32, sales manager, unmarried (no fixed girlfriend)
First of all, I'm not a prodigal son - although I don't have a fixed girlfriend right now.
Perhaps due to the influence of my parents, I have a fear of marriage. When I was a child, my parents often quarrelled in front of me. Although they didn't divorce, they still use their quarrels as a meal. I have talked about many girlfriends, but none of them can fill me with longing for marriage.
The first person who had sex with me was my third girlfriend, who was my 24th birthday. But to be honest, I don't have a deep impression on that girl anymore. I remember that day, perhaps because it was a memorable day in my life.
"I'm not taking relationships seriously, but I don't know why, having talked to several girlfriends, they couldn't make me have the idea of getting married, and they didn't wait until I had the idea to leave. Sometimes I said goodbye, sometimes they did.". I think breaking up is a matter of two people, and it can't be said who is right and who is wrong. It's just that there's no fate.
Regarding the relationship between two people, I think everyone is an adult, and no one has forced anyone to have a relationship. They are all voluntary, and they all derive happiness from it. Especially now, women are no longer as passive as before, and they also know how to make themselves happy. Men are no longer simply demanding. In this way, when it comes to sex, both men and women are equal. As long as there is no coercion or harm, the problem of "sex" is not that serious.
"I don't want to go to any woman because of my physical needs. I haven't been to a sex scene before, and I don't think I would go to that kind of place. That kind of sex is boring.". I think sex is still based on emotions, even if they are not love. "It's natural for both of us to have a relationship with our former girlfriends. I respect them, and at the same time, I have also given my true feelings. We can't get together and can't enter a marriage. Maybe fate isn't enough.".
Ying Child, 31, Director of an advertising agency, unmarried (no fixed boyfriend)
"I don't want to get married, to put it more seriously, I'm a celibate, and at least I won't change my mind now or in the short term for a few years.". I think getting married is boring. Look at the married friends around me. How many of them are really happy? Both of them had just been married for a year or two, and gradually ended. The days were repeated day by day, and both of them had changed as individuals when they were in love. Their lives were not exciting at all.
My boyfriends have a big group and they know I won't marry them, but they still make friends with me. Of course, I have sexual contact with them.
I don't think it's much. Everyone is an adult, and it's your wish. Originally, making love is also a manifestation of love. When two men and women who have a good feeling are together, there is nothing wrong with the occurrence of sexual behavior. "I don't have a fixed boyfriend, so the boyfriend I have sexual relations with is not sure. I think as long as it's a man with whom I can talk about feelings, it's possible to have sexual relations.". Sometimes when you are in a bad mood and need comfort or companionship, and there is just the right person around you, intimate contact naturally occurs, which I think makes sense.
"I have had close contact with married men before, but that relationship didn't last long. I don't want to disrupt someone else's family, after all, this game is not fun.". "I am with men of the same age, and we have no burden or responsibility. When we are happy, we stay together, when we are unhappy, we separate. It's not that troublesome.". "Just when I first get together, I'll tell him my point of view. If he can accept it, he'll stay with me. If he can't accept it, just walk away.".
"I also have sexual relations with more than one man at the same time, and I have not promised anyone to be loyal to him. I have the right to choose.". Perhaps my attitude towards sex is somewhat casual, but I really believe that sexual behavior is not so sacred, and women should not use this as a bargaining chip to appear valuable. If you think it's right and doesn't harm others, just do it.
