Post Date April, 15 2023
For many men, the advantage of marriage is that there is always a place for them to go. The problem is, there can only be one place for them to go. As a result, men always procrastinate and do not want to imprison themselves prematurely with marriage. A recent study by German psychologists has found that many men are reluctant to marry before the age of 25 because their brains are not fully developed at this time. However, experts from the Beijing Sunshine Huixin Family Counseling Center believe that in addition to this physiological reason, there are other psychological factors behind men's late marriage.
"Women can't wait, so they have to break up. During the interview, 26-year-old Mengmeng told reporters that she and her boyfriend just broke up recently. The reason is simple: the woman has reached the age of marriage, while the man is reluctant to get married.". Unable to wait, we had to break up. "He said that he doesn't mean he doesn't love me, but if you let him get married now, it's better to put a knife on his neck. I really don't understand why men must delay marriage until 30. Maybe they want to play for a few more years and give themselves more choices." In response, Meng Meng's boyfriend Xiao Peng explained that he didn't want to get married now because he wasn't prepared mentally and materially.
"We don't have the conditions for marriage at all. We don't have a house or a car, so we can't get married. Besides, I've just graduated from graduate school, and I always feel like I'm still a child. How can I afford a family?" Meanwhile, Xiao Peng admitted that he and Mengmeng really need more time to blend in. People who dare not marry have personality weaknesses, such as "flash marriage" or delaying marriage. Nowadays, men seem to deliberately oppose women. Regarding the mentality of men who insisted on not marrying before the age of 25, Song Yumei made the following analysis: First, some of them are more mature and treat marriage more cautiously. "They understand more about the meaning of marriage to a person than people who have 'flash marriages' or' divorces', and therefore do not make hasty decisions."
But at the same time, Song Yumei also said that these people often exhibit personality weaknesses such as hesitation in doing things and looking forward and backward in their daily lives. "Applying this personality to emotions can easily lead to the loss of true love." Secondly, for another part of people, they are unwilling to marry because they want to keep trying and find a woman who truly suits them. As Xiao Peng said, "Finding a girlfriend can be easy, but it's important to be careful when finding a wife." It is in this frequent replacement process that they hurt too many women, and they often end up looking at each other, making it difficult to find their "true princess.".
Finally, men marrying late is a product of the times. "In modern society, most people choose to cohabit before marriage, so whether to marry or not is just a difference on paper." Song Yumei said, many people are afraid of taking responsibility after marriage because they are unwilling to marry. After all, marriage means that you have to shoulder the responsibilities of two families, which is exactly what many men want to avoid, especially with only children. Women, don't be sentimental. Men clearly have an advantage in terms of age and marriage. So, as a woman, are you waiting for the man who is reluctant to marry, or are you pretending to be smart and turn around and leave? Song Yumei believes that while women are supreme in love, they cannot lose their sanity.
"You need to be clear about what kind of man you are facing and what kind of marriage you need." "Among the interviewees I have contacted, when cynical men don't want to get married, some women will insist on not letting go of this relationship that has lasted for several years. In fact, at this time, there is no result in continuing, and it is themselves who suffer the most." This type of woman only loves love, It's better to retain your final dignity and reserve and leave. If you are sure that this man is worth waiting for a few years, then it doesn't hurt to get married again in a few years. "However, this must be based on your mutual trust, and at the same time, do not ignore the changes that time has made to people." Song Yumei reminded that sometimes the killer of love is not a third party, but time.
