Post Date April, 15 2023
[Question]
I am divorced now and have met a man 13 years older than me through the introduction of a friend. We all chat very much together, and he cares about me very much and respects me very much. But I always feel like he can't forget his ex-wife. He treasures everything his ex-wife gives him, which I can't bear.
He divorced his ex-wife because she had an affair, and he had given her many opportunities, but she still wanted a divorce. He and I each have a child, should I continue with him like this?
Answer
The emotional combination of men, women, and children has been popular for a long time, probably because old men have status, status, and wealth, and none of them. At least they have experience, and as time passes, whether they are sad or happy, they are all a kind of qualification. Talking freely and making people admire them.
I'm most afraid that women will fall into this logic: he's so much older than me, and looking for someone like me should be cherished. This is a common mistake, regardless of age, women often believe that they should be the one being taken care of. Little did they know that a man's emotional needs may also be subtle. You and he are just starting, and he picks up scattered comforts from memories, which is just human nature. Imagine asking a man to immediately abandon his ten year old love and switch to a heartless face after encountering a "new lover". Don't you think that a man who can accept following suit is a bit hypocritical and terrifying?
Being able to chat and respect you indicates that he is well versed in the world; Can't forget, reflecting his love and righteousness; Regarding your concern - a sense of responsibility, this man also possesses it. So why did his ex-wife still choose to divorce despite his repeated tolerance? Suitability or not, we only know the answer after getting along. You haven't lived with him for that long, you haven't fully touched on all aspects of him, and you haven't seen the part of him that his ex-wife can't accept yet.
You have also bid farewell to a marriage, and when it comes to the lives of men and women, you should have a different understanding. For mature emotions that fit, the paper wedding letter is more like a symbol of happiness, while emotions that contain contradictions and worries, even if bound by marriage, are both profound and obstructing.
Afraid of not being able to go far, why not give up on exploration? It's not worth it. Why not try living for a while? The time we spent together can help you confirm each other's intentions, dispel misunderstandings, or deepen understanding. As for the future, you can plan together instead of being so single-sided and difficult to make up your mind.
