Sometimes women always complain about men's domineering, irascible temper and chauvinism, but have they ever noticed that, perhaps because of their carelessness, they mentioned the pain of men? If women pay attention to the following seven taboo topics for men, I believe that your feelings will be very harmonious and get along more harmoniously.
First, don't talk about the "role" of men in the family
Many women are extremely happy because their husbands are very diligent and excellent at home and help themselves with housework. In order to express his sense of superiority, he often mentions in front of others how good his husband is at home, can help him clean up the house, take care of children, cook, etc. Although his wife is a kind of commendation, for a man, he still has obvious gender characteristics in his subconscious mind, and still thinks that doing household chores is harmful to the dignity of the male "big husband", and has a sense of identity. Over time, In my heart, I will form a sense of resistance and annoyance. Don't say you don't want to do housework any more slowly, which may affect the relationship between husband and wife.
Second, don't criticize his mother face to face, which will hurt his feelings
It is said that mother-in-law is the natural enemy of the daughter-in-law. In real life, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along well. Perhaps it is because of women's inborn narrow-mindedness and sensitive jealousy. When two women face a man, they always have to compete. The daughter-in-law is worried that her husband will be too close to his mother, and the mother is often afraid that her son will be taken away by another woman and alienate herself.
This kind of potential jealousy or jealousy, which is inexplicable, will inevitably lead to conflicts between the two women. So, there will be wives who are always "what's wrong with your mother..." and "I'm much better than your mother" in life. Once a wife speaks like this, it is easy to make her husband feel intimidated. Women must remember that the husband and his mother are always related by blood, which is impossible to give up the family relationship at all, or the feelings may be deeper than you. You can show your gentleness and virtue as a wife, But never behave more virtuous than his mother.
Third, if he sees a beautiful woman and looks at her twice, don't taunt him
Whenever a man is normal, a man will like beautiful women, even if he doesn't admit it. As a wife, she is often jealous of her husband's appreciation of other women. In fact, it is unnecessary. A smart woman must know how to motivate her husband or boyfriend, and even if she can't bear to understand her husband's idea, she should take the initiative to point to a beautiful woman on the street and ask her boyfriend: Is she beautiful? Don't ask, is she prettier than me? Remember! Because the effect of correction is better than feeling good.
Fourth, don't praise another man by comparing his shortcomings
In this way, your husband will feel despised and ridiculed. Generally speaking, men usually lack a sense of security for the same sex. If you compare his advantages with other men, it may make him nervous. So try not to compare your husband with other men. Even if it is necessary to do so, it is better to talk about your husband's advantages and compare with other men's shortcomings. You should make your husband feel better than other men, not worse. Don't keep your eyes on your husband's shortcomings, and let him lose face, confidence and favor.
Fifth, don't ridicule his "romantic view"
Every man has every man's romantic feelings and preferences. A wife should never ridicule his "romantic views". Even if you think his romantic views are outdated or childish, you should respect and encourage his husband's romance. Otherwise, it will hurt his self-esteem. Since then, his husband will not only resist romance, but may also have inferiority complex. At that time, I'm afraid there will be no romance between you.
Sixth, don't endlessly persuade him to get a promotion, raise salary or "change jobs"
If a woman constantly urges her husband to get promoted or change jobs all day long, most women who have this idea tend to have strong vanity. This is a woman who makes men keep giving themselves face. Such a woman will make men exhausted, stressed and exhausted.
Not only that, such women often have a strong attachment mentality, which is the so-called "only vines entangle trees, where there are trees entangle vines". In order to satisfy their vanity and dependence, they do not hesitate to exert all kinds of pressure on their husbands. Of course, there is nothing wrong with encouraging her husband to work hard and forge ahead, but if she does not create pressure randomly according to the actual situation, it may backfire. In short, such a woman looks smart, but she is really stupid.
Seventh, don't talk about his eating habits or bad habits
As a husband, he often confides to his wife. There are no secrets between husband and wife, and they are transparent to each other. However, when he confides to you, he doesn't want you to spread his worries everywhere, advertising neighbors and friends. A man sometimes most taboo is that his wife often reveals his "secret" in front of his friends, especially his bad habits and some defects. This is a big taboo.
In fact, this is a person's normal psychology. Nobody wants to let others know their shortcomings too much, which is also human nature. However, you may as well praise his merits in front of others, such as excellent work, high taste in clothes, and excellent cooking skills. In this case, your husband will be very happy, and smart women may as well try.
It is inevitable that there will be some disputes between husband and wife. Women may argue about a man's hobby for a long time, or they may be too strict with the man because they want him to become better. But this often causes the man's emotions and leads to conflicts, so it is better for both sides to understand each other.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)