Nowadays, more and more people advocate being single and promote the joy of being single. On the contrary, there are also some single people who yearn for love and marriage, but always stop moving forward. They are always reflecting on themselves, 'What happened to me, why were I alone?' They are striving to find their partner, and even seeking professional psychological mentors to analyze themselves and seek answers. So, what are the reasons for being single?
One is the excessive pursuit of perfection.
You are a perfectionist, as many people have. In your eyes, a good job requires a good appearance; Those with good looks also need good education; Those with good education must also be able to eat, drink, and play. It's best for the other party to have a software that can be edited by you, and you can edit it as you want. The idea of requiring the other party to be a 'mud person' will directly shatter your dream of building a beautiful love world. In fact, the perfect feeling of getting along with two people ultimately comes from their own inner cognition, not their appearance.
Secondly, intimate relationships are too 'sufficient'.
Perhaps you have parents who rush to go out on blind dates every day. But you just said, 'Mom and Dad, don't worry. I'm good at home, with food, drink, and shelter. I love you both very much, and I can't find parents who can take care of me like you do!' You enjoy a close enough relationship at home to make up for it. Because parents give too much, including some intimate relationships that should not be given by parents, it can also affect the establishment of intimate relationships in marriage and romance.
Thirdly, there is a lack of inner security.
The earliest experiences of sexual relationships stem from childhood experiences, and most of the influence comes from parents. For example, some people are afraid of falling in love because the shadow of their parents' quarrels in childhood makes them afraid that their intimate relationships will also be disharmonious and unstable. Of course, it may also be due to the harm of first love. But these fears of known harm are actually manifestations of a lack of security. You must recognize your inner fears and gradually learn to face and accept them.
The fourth is not to enter the mainstream in love.
What is' not entering the stream '? It's just like those who are in Love marriage are in a place called "Jianghu". People who are not in the mainstream have not entered this' Jianghu 'at all. They really want to join this Jianghu, but to infiltrate it, they need to learn martial arts from their masters, climb and roll, be looked down upon by others, endure unbearable pain by ordinary people. One day, a master may value you, teach you some moves, or luckily encounter a dog hole with martial arts secrets inside. But you may still not be able to learn, belonging to the completely unqualified type. Then stop fooling around in the Jianghu. Let's be ordinary people who want to get married and have children when we get old. Let's watch some educational videos and finish it.
Five is that 'being tall' has harmed you.
This specifically refers to women. In modern society, gender equality is advocated. In fact, the concept of "men protecting women" has always been deeply rooted in people's hearts, and women also naturally need a sense of security. However, the fact is that modern men are not necessarily stronger than women, and as a result, "they cannot protect girls", that is, "they cannot hold". What do women do? It's better to lower your requirements, even if you find a boy you're willing to protect, just marry him.