Psychological misconceptions that affect sexual function of couples, let's take a look together

Heartless or ignorant

This couple met in a computer class. Teacher Li is a class monitor with very intelligent computer knowledge in his class. Soon, during his computer internship, many female classmates came to him for help, which made him feel warm. On the eve of the exam, Mr. Zhang smiled at her patient guidance. Perhaps it was because Teacher Zhang had seen many heroic stories about saving beauty since childhood that Teacher Li quickly became the prince charming in her heart. This couple finally got married. However, shortly after Mr. Zhang got married, his impression of Mr. Li changed to 180 degrees. Mr. Zhang said that after getting married, I knew he was a selfish and unkind person.

Mr. Zhang told the doctor that she took good care of her husband's feelings during sexual intercourse. She knows exactly what her husband's next sexual reaction will be. She said she had an erection in less than 10 minutes, and her husband hugged her tightly after sleeping. She was clearly aware that her husband's libido stimulated it. She actively cooperates with her husband and tries to satisfy him as much as possible. She believes that husbands should be as certain about their wives' sexual desires and how far their sexual reactions are. But to her disappointment, her husband often starts having sex when she doesn't want to. She believes that this is a selfish and ruthless manifestation of the husband's complete neglect of his wife's sexual desire.

Xiao Li felt like he was joking. He believes that he has taken good care of his wife's feelings during his sexual life. At every stage of sexual life, he believes that his wife will not oppose the next step. But his wife ultimately said he was selfish and foolish.

From the words of Ms. Li and Ms. Li, it can be seen that Mr. Li and Mr. Li are more ignorant than ruthless. Ignorance means being ignorant of a wife's sexual reactions and emotions. During his sexual life, Mr. Li believed that he knew his wife's sexual response - in fact, he always judged his wife's attitude towards sex based on his own feelings. So he made many wrong guesses. For example, Mr. Li told the doctor that he flirted with his wife during sexual activity, and his vagina got wet. His wife did not object to sexual activity. For example, Mr. Li is not very familiar with female sexuality. A normal woman's vaginal wetting within 10 to 30 seconds after receiving sexual stimulation is a sign of early arousal, and the wife believes that only vaginal wetting is prepared to be arbitrary. Regarding Mr. Li, his wife has no objection, which is also ignorant. Some women, especially those with traditional beliefs, are unwilling to express their sexuality through language or express their sexual demands to their husbands. Some women's sexual demands are so vague that they are unaware. Therefore, husbands must understand these characteristics of women in order to truly understand their wives' sexiness. After listening to the doctor's analysis, both husband and wife understood the misunderstanding. When you discover where the problem lies, life will improve.

Manager's wife resigns

Liu's wife and husband are managers of a clothing company. In recent years, Mr. Liu's company's business has developed greatly, and Liu Xiansheng's home is also very wealthy. All the neighbors wished Mrs. Liu good luck, but they couldn't say it.

Ms. Liu told the doctor that she had a lot of worries when sleeping with her husband. She felt that her husband had too little time to fall in love with his partner before making love. She hasn't started having sex yet. She wants to tell her husband how much she hopes he will flirt. But she was worried about her husband's dissatisfaction and even firmly refused. Once, she wanted to tell her husband that she liked to stimulate her clitoris, but when she lost the courage to communicate with her husband's impatient attitude, she hesitated for a long time. She dared not tell her husband that she had not had an orgasm for a long time, and even pretended that it was to please her husband. Obviously, Mrs. Liu's sexual life is filled with the horror of being abandoned by her husband. The whole idea is to suppress one's sexual demands and passively let your husband control it alone. She is always in a state of sexual subordination.

The person responsible for her sexual pleasure

Miss Luo complained to the doctor that her husband has been married for two years and doesn't know how to care about his wife.

The doctor and Mr. Luo had a detailed conversation. From the conversation, Mr. Luo learned that the size of a capable father is his father's idea, from working outside to receiving guests, from home decoration to sewing clothes both inside and outside. After graduating from high school, Mr. Luo returned home to work as a worker and had his father wash his hair. In Miss Luo's heart, my father is the master of the family, and my father is the master of the world.

Miss Luo is also looking for her father to be a model, looking for a capable man like her father. After Miss Luo and Mr. Xiang got married, they found that Mr. Xiang's other aspects were quite good. Several good sisters in the office asked him how he told her - ah, how could Mr. Luo say that

The doctor invited Mr. Luo's husband to come. Mr. Xiang also has a lot of pain... Mr. Luo usually doesn't know the size of this family. These must be decided by her husband. However, regarding the issue of sexual life, nostalgia is not an independent hope. This is difficult for husbands in the world to teach. In Mr. Luo's heart, not only does it make money to support the family, but sex has also become a male responsibility. So Ms. Luo doesn't care about her effectiveness, her sexual behavior, her sexual needs, she's just waiting for her husband to solve her sexual problems. But the results were disappointing. She constantly complains about her husband's dissatisfaction and dissatisfaction. Mr. Luo should be aware that women's sexual satisfaction requires a certain degree of autonomy in their sexual potential.

The doctor told Mr. Luo that making his wife happy sexually is not entirely his job, and she has a responsibility not to actively pursue sexual pleasure.

The results of sexual transition

Mr. Ou has been a woman since childhood. After entering the factory, colleagues learned that her personality should not provoke her as much as possible, which made her eldest daughter's temper even more severe. Mr. Ao was attracted by Mr. Zheng's factory engineer. His first rule is that Mr. Zheng has a good temper to adapt to her. After getting married, Zheng also tried to transfer to her and satisfy her. Mr. O is very satisfied. But Zheng lost his interest in sex. Zheng wanted to satisfy Mr. O, but he didn't want to watch. Because the husband's interest in sex has little impact, the wife's interest in sex has also decreased. Finally, Mr. Ou and his husband had sex for a few weeks.

Mr. O began to suspect that his husband had an affair, but after investigation, she found nothing. Afterwards, Mr. Ou followed her advice and went to see a psychologist. After listening to Mr. Ou's account, the doctor asked her husband Mr. Zheng. Mr. Cheng said that his wife hopes he can extend his flirting and caressing time before each sexual encounter. Mr. Cheng met her requirements... but over time, Mr. Zheng felt that doing so had become a fixed pattern - a very boring one. Mr. Zheng also said that sometimes after flirting and touching for a long time, he can't wait to have sex, but his wife insists on him waiting. Gradually, he felt tired and tired of practicing, so he lost interest. The doctor warned Mr. O that it is unrealistic for her to wish her husband to move every time she has sex. The husband is not a robot, and his mental and physical condition may not be the same. Even a very harmonious wife and husband sometimes try to end their sexual life as soon as possible in a way they like. In this situation, the wife may feel unhappy, but she should understand. In daily life, there is not only a problem of mutual tolerance, but also a problem of mutual tolerance in sexual life. In order to maintain a harmonious sexual life between couples, it is necessary for them to understand each other's sexual requirements appropriately.