Post Date April, 15 2023
I am 27 years old and a shy person. My girlfriend was introduced by a relative and we work in the same hospital. She is a lively and optimistic girl who can make ends meet. She is honest and aggressive towards me, and unlike me, she is not indecisive. Her profession is a pharmacy doctor. At the beginning of our acquaintance, she took the initiative to pursue me. We have known each other for 8 months, and we also like each other. We have started to have the intention of discussing marriage, But I can't completely rest assured of her
I feel a bit oppressed when I'm with her, subjectively feeling that she's stronger than me. Additionally, I'm a bit conservative, and her proactive approach to me can make me feel very uncomfortable.
Her good friend is a water-based woman who had sex with many men before marriage and had multiple miscarriages. At that time, she was still a student and financially disadvantaged, but she still lent money to her friend to have an abortion. Now her friend married a wealthy middle-aged man and became a mother, and they still maintain a good relationship.
I deeply understand that she has been subtly influenced by her friends. She always talks about shameful topics and is not shy. For example, once she told her colleague that a certain man from her hospital went to find a young lady, and at one time, she found more than one person. I was also present, feeling very angry at the time, but I didn't say anything about her on the spot. Afterwards, I told her in person that I shouldn't talk about these topics, but she felt it didn't matter. It was just a joke between colleagues. She said she had thick skin, and I was really helpless.
In short, she always has no shame when it comes to topics related to sex. She can have a very hot conversation with her married male and female colleagues, and the relationship is also good. Her network is wider than mine. Due to the above reasons, I proposed to break up three months ago. My parents also thought that I was too honest and innocent, and that finding her would probably result in losses. So they introduced me to another partner, but she didn't want to. She also fell seriously ill, and I couldn't bear it, so I didn't break up.
She said she is not someone like her friend, and she has not had close relationships with other unmarried men. However, more than a month ago, when she learned that her ex boyfriend was getting married, she felt like she had missed out on him and even called to say she wanted to make up with him. However, she only gave up after being rejected. And when I was out of town undergoing surgery due to illness, she didn't call me, so I felt something was wrong. When I came back, I found out that her mindset had changed and I only found out after repeatedly questioning her. Recently, my condition has improved slightly, and my family is also quite anxious about this matter. They hope that we can break up, and I also feel that we have reached a crossroads. Continuing like this is not good for each other.
Why can't I make up my mind to break up with her? Because although she has an average appearance, she is the kind of person that makes men move when they see her. She is optimistic, understanding, and understands men and women's styles. She will make me happy, and even tease me, making people confused and obsessed. She also said that I am too serious and not open-minded. I admit I'm conservative, but I think you're right. When a relationship is not mature, sex should not be used to promote maturity, and I haven't had any contact with her body. I think once I let go of her, there will be no turning back, and in the end, it will not succeed but hurt her.
