Post Date April, 15 2023
Only smart women can be loved and loved by others. The word "smart" here is not smart, with good working ability, or good at math and writing programs. It is smart, but has the wisdom to deal with people. Now let's imagine that you know two children. A child is easy to be happy, does not need the attention and care of others, and is considerate and grateful.
The other is that because you are a child, you often tell others that I am a child everywhere, so you should let me know that you are an adult, so you should___ Well, if you don't meet his needs, he will be unhappy. If you meet his needs, he will not be grateful. Which child would you prefer to be good to?
Therefore, to be a girl who wants to be loved and treated well by others, it is impossible to ask for such things. Maybe you can use threats to let others do things for you and buy things for you, but this can't make the other party happy.
Those women who are loved by men are not because they are lucky. Maybe they just met a man with a good personality, but the nature of men only accounts for 30% of the factor, because everyone has a bottom line. If you take advantage of the other party's willingness to pay, one day (not for a long time) the other party will get tired of your attitude, and you will also start to feel how you have changed? You have been very good to me before! But in fact, it is not the other party that changes, it is you.
The ability to maintain and stimulate the mood of the other person who wants to treat you well is much more important than meeting a person who is already good to his girlfriend. So when you see those girls who are loved, don't envy them any more. They are not things falling from the sky. Don't complain about your boyfriend's bad behavior. The wool comes from sheep.
1. Don't take things for granted
If you want to be a painful girlfriend, the first thing is to recognize that no one in the world has the obligation to do anything for you. Especially in this case, if you want to be painful, you must not treat your other half with the attitude of a boyfriend that is what you should do or how other people's boyfriend are. Once you let your boyfriend gamble, he will deliberately make you angry.
See what we said earlier, that child will make you want to hit him, that is, because I (or you) is a certain role, how to make people feel that this person is not worth treating him well. But if you don't put who should and how in your speech or attitude, it will make people feel like they want to take the initiative to treat you well.
2. Encourage the other party to focus on happiness rather than unhappiness
Continuing with the first concept, if you know that no one in the world has any obligation to do anything for you, then when you put forward your request or hope again, you will not face the conflict with your boyfriend with an attitude that I will be unhappy if you don't do it, but will communicate with him in a way that what you do will make me happy rather than what you do will make me unhappy.
For example, if you want your boyfriend to call you every day, you should say that if you call me every day, I will feel happy rather than unhappy if you don't call.
For the same thing, if you do something to make yourself or your relationship score higher, if you don't do it, it will become something that people want to do more actively, but if you do it, you won't score higher, but if you don't do it, it will be troublesome, and it will become a tiresome chore. If you want your boyfriend to get along with you to become a hard job, try to complain and scold the other person. So in fact, it is simply a matter of less complaining and more encouragement.
3. Keep a grateful heart no matter how small things are
This is also a continuation of the first concept. Since you know that no one in the world is obligated to you, you will be grateful to anyone who treats you well and is willing to do anything for you, and you will also feel very happy and feel loved and valued, instead of becoming a bottomless pit for love. You should fill in your dissatisfaction anyway and always compare with others.
What a man wants is not how good you are to him, but when he pays for you, you will be happy and have a positive feedback, and do not regard his pay as air or water, then he will love and cherish you very much.
4. Don't compare your boyfriend with someone else's boyfriend
No one likes to be compared, and don't do what you don't want to do to others. This is a very simple truth, but a lot of people do it shamelessly, and then kill their love. The truth that boyfriends dare not say to you is that I am not good for you, because you are not a person who makes me feel worthy of treating you. You are completely painless. Because if you say this, you will have unlimited trouble, and the other party may not want to break up now.
Each of us would like to be a special person, not a man who can fill the role of a boyfriend or girlfriend, as long as the person who can meet this image can fill it, right? We all hope that we are not just a woman or a girlfriend in each other's heart, but a unique individual, that is, treated as adults. If we hope so, others will want to be treated like this.
These things can be easily done as long as we don't think about what we want. We can't change anyone, and don't try to change anyone. The only thing we can manage is ourselves.
