Everyone has their own different views on marriage. Some people believe that marriage is the tomb of love, while others believe that marriage is the harbor of happiness. However, marriage always needs to be preserved, and the secret to long-term happiness lies in the following good habits.
What good habits do you need to develop to have a longer relationship?
1. Praise the other person more
No one is unwilling to listen to praise, especially with sincere and sincere praise. People always have advantages and disadvantages, and there is no one without them. However, in marriage, some people can only see the other person's shortcomings and cannot see their strengths, which inevitably leads to unhappiness. If you want a long-lasting marriage, you must learn to praise the other person and make them feel your love and admiration for them.
2. I need to work harder myself
Marriage does not require anyone's attachment. If you enter a marriage just to rely on each other for a living, it will put shackles on each other. At first, it may be a sweet burden, but increasingly it feels heavy. Maintaining individual independence and struggle is essential if marriage is to last for a long time. I believe that even independent men yearn for a strong backing, rather than just a dodder that clings to them.
3. If there is a problem, it needs to be resolved in a timely manner
Different couples have different ways of resolving conflicts. Some couples rely on calm communication, some rely on heated arguments, and some rely on cold war. The cold war is the least desirable way to solve problems, which is a manifestation of avoiding problems. During the process of the cold war, emotions can easily be consumed. Some people easily enjoy the Cold War and feel that it can make the other party realize the importance of this matter, but it actually has a counterproductive effect.
4. Respect the other party
Respecting the other party is a very easy sentence to say, but there are still many difficulties in practical application. In marriage, everyone is an independent individual, and outside of marriage, others will see the couple as a whole. If both husband and wife cannot respect each other well, there will always be a disadvantaged position, and the marriage relationship will become imbalanced and eventually break down.
5. Don't talk about divorce so easily
When arguing, it is inevitable to be a bit unscrupulous, but even if you are unscrupulous, don't easily talk about divorce. Everyone has heard the story of the wolf coming, and at the beginning, it can make the other party cherish it even more. You don't argue with yourself, but if you say it for a long time, it will make the other party mistakenly think that this is the true idea in their hearts. In addition, if you constantly talk about divorce, it is easy to overdraw the other party's confidence in the marriage, and always say that the divorced person does not respect the marriage enough. When they accumulate to a certain extent, they may really request a divorce.