"My sister-in-law started beating my mother, and I sent a message in my friends' circle reprimanding her, resulting in the entire family blaming me."

"My younger brother's daughter-in-law quarreled with my mother and even started beating my mother. Later, when I learned about it, I sent a message to my friends' circle and said that I didn't say anything too much. I mean, how can there still be such an uneducated person now? Then my younger brother's daughter-in-law saw it and kept sending messages to scold me. My younger brother also blamed me. My parents were driven out to work by them.".

The other day, my grandmother became seriously ill. My parents went back to my grandmother's house and didn't call me. Sometimes when I call her, she doesn't answer. Yesterday, my father called me and said, "Don't call him if you have nothing to do. I'm afraid my younger brother and daughter-in-law will hear it. I can't understand why my parents even gave me a sneaky call. What are they afraid of?"?

I think my parents are very biased. My younger brother and daughter-in-law treat her like that. She still thinks about my younger brother and wants me to let him go, too. My younger brother and daughter-in-law scold my mother and won't let me argue with her. "I'm also married and have children, and I don't want to argue with her, but now that I even call my parents, they dare not answer. I've never had a fight with my younger brother. What should I do now? Won't I ever go back to my mother's house for the rest of my life?"? "But my parents are still there. I hope you can help me analyze it, excuse me.".

reply:

First of all, I would like to express my serious contempt for your sister-in-law's aggressive and immoral behavior of beating the elderly! You're right. Such people are really uneducated and should be severely condemned. You know, everyone has parents, and someone who can handle her mother-in-law means she doesn't take her parents seriously, and she will be punished sooner or later.

Secondly, when it comes to your parents, it's not that your parents are biased. You and your brother are the same in their hearts, both of them falling meat. "Your parents don't understand in their hearts that your daughter is taking sides with them, and they don't want to take sides with your younger brother intentionally to show their love for the baby.". As elderly people, they have their own difficulties. They just don't want to exacerbate conflicts. They prefer to have a harmonious and harmonious family and not become one. The reason why they don't dare to offend their daughter-in-law is really out of consideration for their own son. They are afraid that their son will blame themselves, fear that their son will be wronged, fear that their daughter-in-law and son will divorce in the future, and let others see jokes. In short, they are afraid of losing that share. It is precisely because of your parents' various fears and worries that your sister-in-law is more arrogant and doesn't take your parents seriously in your family. In fact, the core issue is with your younger brother. Your younger brother has not played his role well. It is because your younger brother is not strong enough. Your sister-in-law quarrels with the elderly and strikes them. If your younger brother is a person with a clear conscience, he should be the first to stand up and resolutely not tolerate the behavior of your sister-in-law. The reason why your parents have been wronged is that they can't blame anyone else. They should blame themselves for not educating their son well. It's because their son is not worthy of praise.

Speaking of you, as a daughter, you can't stand being bullied by your parents by your sister-in-law. This is a very normal reaction, but your handling seems to be a bit inappropriate. You shouldn't go directly to your friends' circle to vent your dissatisfaction. Doing so will only indiscriminately expand the matter and only stimulate and ignite the other party's greater anger and anger. First of all, you should calmly communicate privately with your parents and your younger brother, first go through their work, let them achieve ideological unity, tell your parents to grasp their own bottom line and principles, learn to use legal weapons to protect their rights and interests, and do not accept any anger. If your sister-in-law dares to strike people again, directly report to the police. Tell your brother to learn to take responsibility, to protect his parents, not to pamper his wife, and to understand what it means to be senior and junior. "If they can't do it, it's your turn as an aunt to come forward. Even if you intervene, it's not just talking and swearing with your sister-in-law. You need to learn to communicate effectively and reason with them. If you can't communicate with each other, there's no way out. Even if your parents are willing to make a fool of themselves for their son, since your younger brother has no principles and is very clumsy, you can only accept your fate.".

As a daughter, what kind of responsibilities and obligations can you perform for the elderly? Do your best to fulfill your maintenance obligations, and try not to let yourself get involved in it, making yourself a bad person inside and outside. "You can't change anything for others, because others won't listen to you. The only thing you can do is be yourself. Your sister-in-law and your brother are not good to your parents, and you treat them well."; Your parents want you to call them less, so you can call them less; "You love your parents very much, so it's enough to think about filial piety anytime and anywhere.". And don't complain about your parents' favoritism in anger. Even if they are favoritism, you, as a junior, just don't care. Find ways to work hard to live your own life first. By living your own life well, you will have sufficient ability to protect and manage your parents.