My husband swipes his card wildly for his mistress, cheating on his wife and night club mistress

[Question]

"My husband and I have not been in love for a long time, and when we talked to him at that time, there was another blind date that was also under consideration. However, the bride price proposed by our family caused the other one to withdraw, which was why my husband and I had a happy event.".

"My husband later learned about this and felt a bit unhappy. He felt like his wife had bought it. If I didn't do anything good enough, he would taunt me about it.".

"I feel like I'm living a miserable life, but I don't have a job right now, and it's up to him to make decisions about the expenses at home. He doesn't listen to anything I want to say, and he thinks he's raising me.".

"I'm not incompetent, it's just that both families agreed to raise children after marriage. In order to recuperate, I resigned from my job.". His salary card is with me, but in recent months, the repayment amount of his credit card has been a bit large. I asked him a few questions and he became impatient. I wanted to see his bill, but he wouldn't either.

He said that he has been on a lot of business trips recently, so he uses it more. I was skeptical and once checked his mobile phone while he wasn't paying attention, the content shocked me. There was a conversation record that he didn't delete in time. I saw him squandering with Xiao San.

How long have we been married? "He had a woman outside, and I was really devastated. At that time, my family suggested that I find someone with better conditions, but could a man with a little money be so restless?"?

"I kept an eye on him and observed him. I found that his so-called overtime work didn't even come to the company. Their company didn't arrange for anyone to work overtime after eight o'clock, but he didn't come back until two or three o'clock in the night, and sometimes he didn't even come back.". Needless to say, I must have slept at Xiao San's.

What should I do in a situation like this? "I have a good relationship with my parents-in-law, and he knows how to pretend to be a good husband in front of my family. No matter who I tell about his cheating, they won't believe me.". Only I know that his big spending on credit cards must be to please the junior. I can't get his bill, there's no evidence, it's just a vague guess. His attitude is enough to explain the problem. If there are no ghosts in his heart, how can he hide like this? I'm impatient when I ask?

What should I do? Now, as soon as I hear that he is going on a business trip or working overtime, I think that he is going to hang out with the third child outside. I am so miserable and embarrassed. What can I do?

[Answer]

Identify the problem before solving it. First of all, it is necessary to verify who the third party is, what their identity is, how long their relationship lasts, whether it occurred before marriage or after marriage, and what problems exist within your marital relationship, both internally and externally, which should be treated according to the situation.

During the entire process, you need to remain calm and cooperate to save the family, and be careful to prevent emotional outbursts. Once the war within the family spreads, many third parties will take advantage of it. The sharper your problem, the more stable the position of the third party is. On the contrary, the more harmonious you are, the more anxious, guilty, and flustered the third party becomes.