My husband speculates on stocks and claims to need a quiet place, using the excuse of moving out and cohabiting with a third party

At the moment I learned that my husband had an affair, I wished I could kill that woman. But he couldn't make a sound with his palm all the time. If he had strong composure, it would be impossible for him to take the bait. Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, a year has passed, and I have been feeling very frustrated. He repeatedly proposed a divorce to me, but it never came to an end. Every day after work at 5 o'clock, I come home and still haven't warmed up. I try to run outside and after fooling around, I come back to eat the food I made as if nothing had happened.

My husband and I have been married for 6 years, have been pregnant with 2 children, and passed away within 2 months of conception. The doctor's conclusion is that my husband smokes and drinks too much, resulting in a high sperm abnormality rate. Therefore, I advise my husband to quit smoking and drinking, and he is very cooperative for the sake of the children. In half a year, I became pregnant again, and he took meticulous care of me from conception to childbirth. After the child was born, the whole family was very happy. I'm not sure when it started. He got involved in stock trading, to be honest, I don't quite understand.

What I know is those news reports about stock market crashes and jumping off buildings. I advise him not to go too far, it's okay to stir fry, and not to include his family. He said my way as a woman, let me worry less about him and just take care of the children. During this period, he made profits by paying compensation, and I didn't see much of the money that actually entered our account. From here on, he also met a third party. They often date and discuss stock matters, and I noticed something unusual about him, which was seen from their dating text messages. I have had arguments with him and also had trouble. When I lost control of my emotions, I once hit my head against the wall and sealed several shots, but I couldn't hold him down.

In this way, our marriage went through ups and downs. A month ago, there was another dispute, and he once again filed for divorce. I agreed and urged him to go through the procedures quickly, but he refused. I was so angry that I ran to my mother's house and left my four year old child to take care of him. After staying at my mother's house for less than three days, my neighbor called me and said that my child was hungry and went to their house to find food. After listening, I was shocked and amazed.

I hurriedly returned home for only three days, and the house was in a mess. There were pots and pans piled up in the kitchen, and the child was dirty as if he hadn't washed his face for several days. Looking at my husband again, he looked haggard with a messy beard. He saw that I didn't have a good face and even argued with me, saying that it was because I had an argument with him, which made him angry and caused him to lose a lot of money in the stock market. He looks completely lawless in that way. For the sake of the child, I have been living too hard, buying groceries, cooking, washing dishes, and cleaning the room. A week ago, he moved out and said he wanted to earn back the compensation money. He needed a quiet place and was prone to arguments with me at home. I heard from a dozen that he had cohabited with a third party.

This blow feels like the end of the world to me, and the thought of leaving home for a few days with my child like that makes me unable to make up my mind to divorce him. Our son is the only child in their family, and even if it's a divorce, it's impossible for me to take him away. What should I do? Am I too cowardly?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

Hello. From your account, trading in stocks is just an excuse for him, and cheating is what he really wants. When everything in marriage seems normal, the danger may already lurk inside. You think life is very normal. Your husband may already have some dissatisfaction, but you haven't noticed it. If you propose an unfortunate miscarriage in your first child, then your second child must be extremely careful. During this period, your focus may have shifted and you may have overlooked your husband's feelings, which makes it easy for him to vent through extramarital affairs.

The saying of stocks is just a cover up, in its true sense, as you said, finding an excuse to get along with a third party. You don't need to live a life of grievance and compromise. Divorce does have an impact on children, but how long can you persist in such a marriage? Aren't you tired? Do you think children can grow up healthy in such an environment? Suggest collecting evidence of his infidelity first, setting your bottom line, negotiating peacefully with him first, and making a legal agreement. If he doesn't listen, provide your evidence before planning a divorce.