Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband and I are in a free love relationship. We got married in 2008 and have two children. When I got married, my husband's family was very poor, and everyone in my family opposed it. I persisted for 2 years, and the family finally agreed.
My husband has a strong entrepreneurial spirit. After several years of hard work, he now has a house, a car, and a company. I thought his life would be better in the future, but he has changed and has a mistress outside.
After I found out, he didn't show any remorse. He also said that wealthy people on TV live like this, and his friends around him also do the same. It's good for him to be able to return home on time most of the time. He asked me not to call him if he doesn't come home at night in the future, and it's useless to call him. He said being with San is very relaxing and there is no pressure.
I had a good conversation with him before, and he said he would be given a month to handle it, but now he refuses to admit it. He said it would take at least 2 years, and when he gets tired of it, he will naturally give up.
I have also thought about giving up, but what about a divorced child. And I'm not willing, my mother-in-law also said I'm stupid, let me hold on and don't let San succeed. I really don't know what to do when I think I'm taking care of my children at home and he's playing with women outside?
Reply:
It is difficult to be a woman, but even more difficult to be a wealthy man.
In today's money oriented society, wealthy men are always surrounded by "peach picking pies" (women who want to achieve the results of men's struggles by becoming mistresses). Most of these "lower body animals" find it difficult to resist the temptation of beauty. Therefore, having money to control oneself from cheating has become a problem for wealthy men, and finding a man who earns more money and is loyal to oneself has become a problem for women.
There is a saying that goes: "Women all have a princess dream, hoping to gather three thousand favors in one. However, most men have an imperial heart, always wanting three thousand beautiful women in the harem
Men who cheat and don't want to divorce usually consider their wives' emotions. Even if they don't want to break up with their mistress, they will comfort their wives with one lie after another, giving them the expectation of "breaking up soon" to support them. Your husband's infidelity is very reasonable and straightforward, and he doesn't hide his viewpoint that 'wealthy men should cheat'. He rationalizes his unreasonable infidelity by saying 'wealthy people on TV live like this, and friends around him do the same', and even boasts that 'it will take at least 2 years, and when he gets tired of it, he will naturally give up'. He is so "honest", so "honest" is so cruel that he doesn't even want to tell you lies.
From your husband's words and actions, he has already determined that "it's normal for a man to have money to cheat" and "it's reasonable for a wealthy man to cheat" are unreasonable beliefs. Such beliefs will encourage him to be constantly distracted, and if he gets tired of this mistress, he will have the next mistress. Living with such a man, you need to be prepared for long-term mistress fights.
Behind every domineering man, there is a weak woman. Think about it, when did you start making him feel weak and deceptive? What is the reason why he dares to speak so shamelessly? What can you do to win his respect or make him afraid? I hope you can think seriously.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)
