Letters from readers:
I want to ask you about the problems you have encountered recently. I want to tell you about it. Please help me analyze it. Thank you! My husband and I have been in love for three months, so we got married in a flash because of pregnancy. But two months after we got married, we miscarried because of the poor development of our child. He has been very upset at work recently and may resign. He didn't go home to live in his mother's house when he came back from a business trip three days in the previous two weeks. He ignored me and said that he would break up with me because of his bad temper. I also need his mother to cook because of miscarriage. He thinks his mother is too hard. He is 6 years older than me. Now he has been saying that he will break up for two weeks. What should I do? Mr. Pang, please help me analyze it for me. Thank you.
reply:
Hello, good marriage is the result of careful choice, and it is normal for flash marriage to bear bitter fruit, because not everyone can start and end a flash marriage, and not every couple who marry with children can reap love. Therefore, I can only blame myself for my lack of morale at the beginning, and I can only blame myself for doing things too casually. Girls should not get pregnant casually, let alone marry casually. Marrying is risky. Who told you to rush into the besieged city without thinking about it? This is the inevitable punishment for your thoughtlessness. Since your husband is determined to break up with you, why should you keep it? You should know that even if you keep one person, you can't keep his heart. Perfection is also a kind of cultivation. It's better to make an early end for yourself and the other party.
Letters from readers:
Recently, it's really troublesome. My wife and I have only been married for two years, and we have a lovely daughter. My wife and I were introduced and married after a year of acquaintance. At the beginning, we always quarreled, and it will be better in a few days. In the past year, my mother and my wife have been on bad terms. It's always because of money, and we are both working.
I haven't reconciled since the last fight. My wife threatened me to divorce. I always want to improve their relationship and do their ideological work. Because my husband often beat me, I like a man who is five years younger than me, but nobody listens to me. It's useless. I don't want to divorce now, because my daughter is only over one year old. I don't want to hurt her. I don't want my parents to say how I don't listen to them. There are many things I can't say clearly, and I don't know what to do?
reply:
Hello, is marriage a haven or a vanity fair? Although marriage is a life of two people living together, which is a symphony of daily necessities and pots and pans, it is not always to argue about money all day long. Money is important, but love is more important. Contradictions are inevitable, and quarrels are also inevitable. But it is not very foolish to argue endlessly because of money.
It is a common phenomenon in the family that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to handle. It is necessary to be a man's neutral and slimy. This is a need to pay attention to the method. On this issue, you should be careful to be "two-faced and three-faced". In front of your mother, you must praise your daughter-in-law's good. In front of your daughter-in-law, you should praise your mother appropriately, and often do things of mutual praise on behalf of both sides. In the long run, I think the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will improve. Marriage defense war needs a little patience and care. Don't divorce easily unless you have to. It's easy to divorce, but it's difficult to manage marriage. As long as you find the right way and path, it's not so difficult to move towards marriage happiness and family harmony.