My ex-husband and I divorced and stayed at home, but now we're obsessed with getting back together, but there's a woman outside

Reader's Letter:

Hello, I am 40 years old this year, and I have been divorced from my husband for 4 years. I have always been divorced without leaving home. Living together, I don't care about each other. The reason for the divorce was that during my love affair with him, I broke up and talked to someone else. Having cohabited hurt him, and after marriage, I always retaliated and sought compensation outside.

After the divorce, he regretted asking for remarriage, but I didn't agree. I didn't expect him to make money in recent years, and all the money was given to me. However, at this time, a girl outside told me that she was his girlfriend and sent me a lot of photos of them. I was in pain for a long time. During the divorce, I also talked about a boyfriend who had broken up, and now I am intent on reuniting with my ex husband. We have a 12 year old daughter. "He seems to want to get back together, but he also often keeps in touch with his girlfriend, and remarriage is still uncomfortable with me. He thinks I've made a lot of mistakes. What should I do now?"? Finding them together made me feel so uncomfortable. His girlfriend often provoked our relationship and made me discover their traces together.

My ex husband now comes home every day and takes us out to play on weekends, but from time to time I answer the girl's phone, which makes me feel so uncomfortable. What should I do? Thank you very much.

reply:

Hello, thank you for trusting Brother Shan. After all, it was you who made the mistake first, because you weren't specific enough about your feelings, resulting in your husband's retaliation for your dissatisfaction. Although your ex-husband and you have a composite intention, they still care about you in their hearts, but there is still a certain complex in his sadness. Moreover, there are women who have taken the initiative to socialize with him outside, and he doesn't lack "goods" around him now. Therefore, he deliberately stands up with you, The purpose is to make you appear, and he will make decisions based on your attitude.

Since it is still difficult for you to part with each other and there is a desire to compound, it is easy to handle. As long as you are sincere in attitude, proactive in behavior, and excellent in performance, you will gradually ease the relationship, and the possibility of remarriage can still be realized. As for you now, seeing him with another woman makes you feel uncomfortable. In fact, you should also bear it well. This is an inevitable punishment for your original mistake. "You need to reflect on yourself and not make the same mistakes again in the future, so if you want to get back together, just keep your posture down and clarify your attitude, and don't even bother about how he interacts with other women now. In short, you make decisions based on your own bottom line.".

Reader's Letter:

"I always feel like my boyfriend doesn't have me in his heart, but he keeps saying that he thinks about me every day, but rarely takes the initiative to talk to me or call me. He always says he's busy, busy, and tired, but he's really too busy to call me and say a few words, or too tired to send me a WeChat?"? Most of the time, he chose to send WeChat instead of calling me. Before we always quarreled, he thought I was bad tempered. I have changed a lot. I learned to tolerate him and give him the company he needed, but I think he can't give him the time to accompany me. He always said he was busy and didn't have time to buy gifts for me. He didn't have time to go shopping. Valentine's Day gifts. Qixi gifts were given to him, but he always delayed giving me gifts 。

reply:

Hello, in a relationship, if you feel more pain than happiness, that means you should break up decisively. Otherwise, you can only be less considerate and more tolerant.