My boyfriend wants to get married first and then buy a house. What if my parents don't agree

I am 90 years old and I am currently dating my boyfriend. His family conditions are not good, and my parents do not agree with us. They say we must buy a house before we can get married. My partner's parents are quite old, and buying a house is currently too difficult for my partner. And he wants to open a restaurant, which I think is also a good thing, but I'm also afraid that if the restaurant fails, we'll have nothing left.

My boyfriend wants to get married before buying a house, and he is also very kind to me. We really like him. But I'm also very scared, afraid that he won't buy a house after getting married, or that he won't be as good to me as he is now. Because I also saw from the news that many two people were in love before marriage, and after marriage, due to the pressure of life, the man became violent and indifferent, or even cheated with a little money. But I don't want to be separated from him. He loves me very much now and is kind to me. When I encounter difficulties, he always helps me out. I am quite delicate, and every time I lose my temper, he always gives in to me. What should I do?

My parents don't agree with me being with him, saying he won't let us get married unless he buys a house. I feel so embarrassed, I really don't know how far we can go. How should I choose?

reply:

Hello, how to choose between love and bread is a difficult problem. Everyone wants their love to be perfect, but life often presents us with imperfections. I personally believe that if you want to enjoy the happiness of love, it is best not to mix too many distractions, nor to think too far. People still need to live in the present, because all we can grasp is the present.

True love is not easy, it's best to act and cherish it. If you truly love each other, it's better not to break up easily, nor to lose confidence or waver in love due to the constraints of reality. True love can withstand wind, rain, and any test. Many times, you need to be firm in your choices and confident in your own vision, and not be disturbed by external forces.

As for the obstacles from your parents, you should not forcefully get rid of them, nor take them too seriously. You must find ways to do their job well. The best way is to have your boyfriend tell your parents that he has this ability through practical actions and achievements. After discussing with your boyfriend, you can choose not to get married first, work hard to start a business, and wait until you have some improvement before considering it, after all, you are not very old. Through this period of time, we also have a good understanding and relationship building.

Of course, if you think your boyfriend is worth your trust, then you need to put in more effort to flatter your boyfriend in front of your parents, do a good job in communication, and be sincere enough to persuade your parents. In a relationship, the most important thing is still yourself, as well as your own perspective. As long as you recognize this relationship yourself, go forward without hesitation, do not hesitate, otherwise you will also be in chaos.