In high school, the school system was very strict, prohibiting men and women from falling in love. "But many of my female classmates go out secretly at night, and they don't come back until the dormitory door is closing.". After returning, they began to flaunt wantonly, saying how good and exciting it was to kiss. At that time, I was still longing for love, but out of fear of the teacher, I didn't dare to fall in love. I spent every day studying, so my academic performance was very good.
In the first year of the college entrance examination, of the twelve people in our dormitory, only four were admitted to college. None of the girls who were in love passed the exam. "They spend all their time talking and falling in love, and they still have the heart to study, let alone go to college.". On the occasion of graduation, a boy whom I secretly loved confessed to me, and I was both pleased and uneasy. Happily, I am a girl who is loved by others; What's troubling is that it's impossible for us to be together in this lifetime. Because we are people in two different worlds, farther and farther apart.
When I was just a freshman in college, I was still studying wholeheartedly. At the end of the year, I also won a second class scholarship at the university level. I was very excited and excited. At the beginning of my junior year, some of my roommates talked about boyfriends, and some even changed several! I was single then. It's not that I don't want to talk about boyfriends, but that I can't find the guys I'm interested in. I don't like guys who are very untidy, especially those with dandruff in their hair. I hate them to the extreme. At that time, a boy showed his love to me, but as soon as I saw his dandruff, I ran away in disgust.
Later, our class held a spring outing with another class. During that spring outing, I met my boyfriend, named Jack Lin (an American and international student). At that time, our two classes were playing outside, and my wallet accidentally fell into the river. In a hurry, I fished with a rod, but I couldn't catch it. Just as I was about to cry, a boy jumped into the water and helped me out. Just as I reached for my wallet, I realized that he was a foreign student with blue eyes and a big nose. He was very handsome and left a good impression on me.
So we started dating, and our relationship became closer and closer. We both held hands and kissed, but we never had that kind of relationship. "In the third month after we confirmed our relationship, one night, my boyfriend proposed to stay me in his bedroom for the night. I knew what he meant, but I didn't agree. He was a bit unhappy at the time.". Later, he also repeatedly proposed to go to bed, but I was still hesitant and at a loss.
Another weekend, we went out shopping together, and he bought me many gifts, including my favorite bracelets and dresses. We finished the whole afternoon, and around six o'clock, we went to a restaurant for dinner. After dinner, we went to KTV to sing for three hours, which was very tiring. I said it's getting late Let's go back! However, he proposed to go to the hotel to rest, where the environment is better than the dormitory. "I didn't want to go, but I was afraid he wouldn't be happy, so I finally went to the hotel and opened a room.".
After entering the hotel, my boyfriend started carrying me to bed and pulling at my clothes. I'm afraid, my boyfriend's desire is so strong, please let me satisfy him! "I didn't want to, so I started running outside, but how could a weak woman resist his strength!"! What should have happened finally happened. Looking at the pool of blood on the bed, my heart was crying.
My boyfriend said he loved me, said he liked me, and I loved him, too. "But I don't want to have sexual contact, because this is my first love, and I really care about it for the first time.". "Since then, every time we were together, he would propose having sex, which I resented very much, but I always agreed.". I don't know if he really loves me? Or is there only a sexual need for me? I am very depressed. What do you think I should do?
Expert response:
The issue of love has been troubling many college students, especially those who have no previous experience in love, and appear to be very flustered and at a loss. Often, one accidentally falls into the mire of love, unable to extricate oneself! In love, girls are very vulnerable to harm, not only from the physical, but also from the spiritual and psychological aspects. But if we calm down and think carefully, you will find that many problems are easy to see through, but you do not maintain a very clear mind.
I am not opposed to college students falling in love, but I also do not advocate studying hard to fall in love for three reasons: First, many college students blindly pursue the trend, and when they see others pairing up, they feel very outdated when they don't talk. Secondly, many college students fall in love for the purpose of experiencing male and female love, experiencing sexual life, and embracing an entertaining attitude. Third, influenced by certain factors, a lonely and lonely psychology urges people to fall in love, just to relieve loneliness and loneliness.
The above three aspects are the specific reasons why college students like to fall in love now. This kind of love is very unstable and unstable, full of many unpredictable problems. "Your boyfriend, who is eager to have sexual relations with you and forcibly occupies you regardless of your wishes, can demonstrate a basic truth: he does not respect you very much.". How can a boy who doesn't know how to respect you care for you? "To you is just an impulse and desire to love, not a beautiful love.".
On the other hand, you are Chinese, he is American, and there are many differences between you. For example, there must be huge gaps and differences in your eating habits, ideas, personal personality, and sexual openness, which can have a certain impact on your relationship and marriage. Obviously, you have not realized or considered these issues, which is a great mistake. In my opinion, breaking up is the best choice. Even if it is difficult to make up your mind, you must break up.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)