Men of all ages have different psychological problems. When a young man becomes a father, it is not always the joy of becoming a father, but also accompanied by pressure and trouble. Sometimes they can't even stand the neglect of their relatives, which causes psychological problems. Let's introduce the psychological problems of fathers of different ages and help you become a good father!
1、 Young father: learn tolerance and complete role transformation
With the passage of time, the "little emperors" and "little princesses" born after the 1980s have gradually entered the age of marriage and love. They have become the father of the child by accident. From being loved by thousands of people to the need to pay without regret, the psychological gap will inevitably appear. Mind determines everything! It is most important to learn tolerance and communication. Young people after the 1980s grew up in a good environment created by their parents, and there are few cases where their needs cannot be met. Therefore, the post-80s couples should learn to think in a different way and measure each other to manage their families well.
Most men who are new fathers are struggling in their careers. At this time, my father had both joy and confusion. Due to economic reasons, the couple and their parents need to be closely connected. They also need to often ask for help from relatives and friends of the original family. They have not been well separated from the original family. The men in the family will constantly change and adjust in many relationships and roles, and sometimes even make themselves in a state of anxiety.
In addition, it reminds new fathers that the responsibility for raising children is parents', not grandparents' or grandparents', and that children's future should not be designed in accordance with their own ideal, and children's personality development should be respected.
Tips: empathy and mutual understanding
Young dads may need to take on a lot of housework, occupy personal space and affect rest. At this time, wives should also be more considerate of their husbands' feelings, reduce blame and blame, and jointly complete the duty of caring for small lives.
As a husband, he can take more active care of his wife and children and create a good family atmosphere. If two people think in different positions and suppress their own bad emotions, they can naturally pass the role transition.
2、 Middle-aged father: It is more important to be considerate when facing multiple pressures
As children grow up, the career of men as fathers is on the rise. Many people will choose to "fight" at this time. They will invest more energy in their career and have less communication with their children. This is often blamed by family members. A father's duty is to maintain the safety and development of his family. Compared with his mother, he will spend less time at home. But this does not mean that his love will be less. Without his work, the basic survival of the family may have problems.
After middle age, there will be some changes in the body. As a father, a man will naturally notice that his momentum has decreased, and he will start to be a little conservative, and his worries will increase. Learn to accept the changes in your body. At the same time, children have entered puberty, and there are more and more different voices in the family. "Raising a boy is afraid of learning bad, and raising a girl is afraid of being killed. Parents are always a bit worried. No one likes to live under surveillance. Parents and children are equal. Parents who respect their children will also become a good example in the eyes of children, and let them learn to respect others.
In particular, some fathers with bad temper are easy to use sticks and fists to educate children at this age, but this will only make children more rebellious. At this time, children have a certain ability of judgment and self-control. Parents need to remind them of the correct direction of life and give more attention to their children in life.
Tips: Family members should be more considerate of their father's difficulties
Dad has great responsibilities and pressure in the family. Their pressure is mainly released through the consideration of their families, the consideration of their wives, and the glory of their children's success. They can give the warmth of being considerate and caring psychologically, and can also give the sense of success to be depended on.
At this time, we should understand the father's contribution to the family and say thank you to our father with gratitude, which will make our father feel more satisfied. At the same time, as parents, we should trust our children and ask them to go their own way. Don't carry everything on their back. We can provide some help for children's study, marriage and work within our capabilities, but the situation cannot develop completely according to our wishes. Learn to be children's friends, and it will be easier to understand children's needs. Children's happiness also plays an important role in relieving father's pressure.
3、 Elderly father: spiritual loneliness needs children's company
Due to the aging of various organs of the body and the change of social status, the retired father has a sense of separation from society, and becomes sensitive emotionally, forming the so-called "retirement syndrome". When the father gets old, his father's pillar status in the family will be banned, and it is easy to feel that his sense of self-worth is lacking psychologically. At this time, children should try to spend time with their father and let him unload the burden of the whole family and turn to the state of enjoying happiness. At this time, children can pay more attention to their father's health, cold and warm, and support them to go out and participate in community activities for the elderly.
Tips: find happiness by yourself
Elderly fathers no longer need to worry about the life of adult children. They should do more to make themselves happy, or do some hobbies and plans that are too busy to realize before retirement because of their busy work.
Among all age groups, anxiety disorder is the most common psychological disease of fathers aged 30, 40 and 60. Psychologists suggest that young fathers should first be self-confident and reduce their sense of inferiority. Every time they increase their self-confidence, their anxiety will be reduced. Middle-aged fathers can use music, chess, calligraphy and painting to cultivate their temperament and enrich their spiritual life; Qigong, Taijiquan and self-discipline training are all helpful to eliminate fatigue and anxiety. As for the elderly father, children should understand the elderly, and the children who have become married often go home to chat with the elderly, which is the best prescription for preventing and treating the psychological diseases of the elderly.
These are the psychological problems experienced by fathers of different ages. A father in middle age should not only endure the pressure from work, but also bear the responsibility of supporting the family and raising children. Therefore, wives should give them more care and consideration.