Post Date April, 15 2023
Last month, I returned to my hometown and saw Xue Qiong, whom I hadn't seen for many years. She was the flower of our high school days, and many male classmates had had romantic dreams related to her. But this seemingly perfect woman couldn't help but shed tears in front of me.
After graduating from high school, we met three times in total. The first time was more than ten years ago, when Xue Qiong had just graduated from college. She told me that although there were many people pursuing her, she was not happy at all and just wanted to find someone she liked to live peacefully. The second time was three years later, when she had just divorced. Although she had found a man she liked, she couldn't get along. She couldn't stand his neglect and admired the women who were held in the palm of her husband's hand all day. She said that if you remarry, you must find a man who is truly good to yourself.
In 1998, I saw Xue Qiong again. She had been divorced twice and was now living with a widowed man. If two people truly love each other, their family members oppose it. However, she intends to persist.
I asked her why she was so determined this time?
Xue Qiong said that in the previous two marriages, she did not understand the true meaning of them, and always thought of the marriage too perfect. She not only required the other party to be rich, treat her well, but also liked it. Now, after two failed marriages, she finally understands that most marriages cannot be perfect. Because of this, she particularly cherishes this man now. Although he is only a very ordinary junior high school teacher and is not tall, she will marry him regardless of family opposition.
To tell the truth, I am very happy for Xue Qiong's enlightenment, although she understood it a bit late and paid a heavy price for the so-called perfection. However, I believe that her marriage to that teacher will be very happy, because she finally realized a simple and easily overlooked truth through two failed marriages: a happy marriage cannot be perfect, and we must learn to understand the flaws in marriage.
In fact, many things in the world are like this: once the moon is complete, it will soon become incomplete; The fruit on the tree, once ripe, is about to fall. "In order to last, it is necessary to leave a slight deficiency in everything.". Marriage needs this moderate lack most. It is the lack that allows both parties to strive for change, allowing us to balance our progress in this somewhat contentious dynamic.
We should also understand that what we have may not be perfect, but we must firmly believe that he or she is the best! Don't make every effort to own a thing because it's good. Having it makes you feel the best of him or her with all your heart, and that's how happiness comes.
