Love Psychology: Don't Hide Especially Important Things
1. If you have any questions about your family, you should inform them earlier
If it is a marriage based relationship, it is inevitable to solve problems related to family. Relatives who are too far away do not need to be involved for the time being. What needs to be explained to the other party is about parents, siblings, and close relatives. Find an opportunity to introduce your family well.
Don't think that as long as two people love each other and have no relationship with their respective families, this idea is very dangerous. After all, getting married is not as simple as falling in love. Clarify the problem early, and before getting deeply involved, both parties should consider it clearly. Being responsible for oneself is also respectful of him.
2. Symptoms that affect life or some personal troubles
Marriage is when two completely unrelated people live together, and under this premise, there are some things that cannot be concealed. For example, debt, loans, etc. The financial liabilities before marriage are all personal things, but if you plan to repay the loan together after marriage, you need to prepare the other party mentally in advance.
There are also some genetic or infectious diseases that cannot be concealed. Even if you don't think it's a big deal, if it can't be cured in the future, it will still bring a burden to your partner. Just tell him to be prepared.
If you conceal it beforehand, once the other party knows it, it will definitely be a big blow. If you tell him from the beginning that there are any issues that two people can discuss and solve together, it will not lead to a rift in their relationship.
Love psychology, some things are better left unsaid
If it's a personal issue that doesn't affect life and you don't want the other person to know, it's better to keep it deep in your heart.
1. Past love experiences should be buried in the heart
The most troublesome thing between lovers is whether or not to confess their past love experiences to each other. In fact, the best way is not to say anything. If the other party insists on knowing, not saying anything may make them jealous. If everything is said, it can easily cause jealousy in the other party.
It is difficult to provide clear suggestions, but as an indicator, it is very wise not to mention things he has not done before. The root cause of jealousy lies in feeling like you have lost to your ex.
Although everyone has curiosity and wants to know about the other person's past, once they know it, they will fall into a state of unease and entanglement. If you don't want your lover to feel bad, don't let them smell your past sweet love.
2. Tell him what, it will make him feel sad too
If some hidden things are painful for you, it's best not to let them know. Think carefully, which one does he love more, you who have no secrets or you who tell him the secrets?
He may have the reaction that when you tell him the secret in your heart, he is happy that you can be honest with him, and the relationship between the two becomes even closer.
But if it is something that will take a blow to the other party, it needs to be carefully considered.
First, you need to figure it out for yourself, confess to him, and tell him the meaning of your secret. Just your self satisfaction? It may make one feel relieved, but it may add pressure to the other person's mental state, so it is important to achieve self-control.
It is also a kind of love to walk through life with an unspeakable secret like this. Don't let the troubles become more complicated, and don't let your love become heavy because of the past.
3. Don't pester yourself with asking questions
Many couples have agreements that do not conceal anything from each other. But this is different from discussing everything with the other party. Especially when it comes to work matters, some people need to keep their work secrets and do not discuss them with their partners; If there is something that really needs to be explained to you, the other party will definitely report it clearly to you.
For a lover like that, don't feel cold and indifferent. If you criticize and argue without an answer after asking, it will only worsen the relationship between the two. If the lover really doesn't want to say it, don't force it, give him respect and trust him.
Even the most passionate love requires distance, which can be reflected in unspeakable secrets. Sometimes, some bad words in the heart can make the relationship between two people more stable and intimate. Instead of trying to pry into the other person's hidden past, it's better to cherish the present and create a small happiness that belongs to both of you.
What "secrets" cannot men hide when in love? I believe all male friends have their own answers. First of all, don't hide questions about your family. Of course, if you have any diseases that affect your life, you should tell them in a timely manner. Some things can be told directly to the other party, but some things can make the other party more sad, so be selective!
(Intern Editor: Liu Feifei)