I met him when I was in college. At that time, I worked with a club to sponsor the club. After graduation, I drifted alone in the metropolis and felt extremely hopeless about my work. He offered to recommend a job for me. After that, he bought me a house. We got along as lovers. Although that was the case, I always served him as a wife.
Because he cared, and even in order to reduce the chance of quarrelling between their husband and wife, I bought his wife a gift on her birthday, which made him very moved and divorced in a short time. So we entered the palace of marriage. After marriage, it was very sweet. Plus, I was pregnant. He treated me like a national treasure. He accompanied me after work every day and washed clothes for me. What I didn't expect was that he cheated during my pregnancy. Because he comes home late every time very regularly, I regard him as solving physical needs without interference. Although I am also angry, I do not have seizures, because I am a person whose marriage is more important than life. It was because he knew too well that I would not divorce because of this, so he continued to interact with girls. I just didn't think that my tolerance had become the chip of his extramarital love.
Good tolerance, need to understand, couples need to communicate
In addition to tolerance, couples need to communicate more. The boring and comfortable life after marriage is likely to make you meet with a mistress. You will magnify your dissatisfaction with life and even force you to end your marriage as soon as possible. At this time, what you need most is mutual communication, tolerance and understanding.
This can make you clearly realize that this kind of emotion is not because of love, but the projection of the current spouse's feelings, which coincides with your dissatisfaction with your spouse. In fact, in your heart, the most difficult part is your current spouse.
Therefore, when you meet someone who "hate to meet", as long as you have a balanced comparison and frank communication, you can fully understand the meaning of this marriage to you.
Don't doubt each other
"There are no couples in the world who can't be separated, only the unswerving mistress!" From this online comment, we can easily see that modern people have no choice about extramarital love.
If marriage is to last long, one party must have a stronger tolerance. But tolerance does not mean that everything must be inclusive. Tolerance and concession are both matters of both parties. If one party becomes accustomed to it, it must be aggrieved. If it is because one party's excessive tolerance has created the other party's extramarital love, we can only say that this tolerance is somewhat excessive.
In the life of husband and wife, don't regard the tolerance of the other party as the weight of indulgence. You should know that the other party's tolerance is only for love, and hope you can change your mind. As the wrong party of extramarital love, you need to put yourself in the other party's feelings. Once this so-called tolerance exceeds the level of love, this love will disappear. No longer perfect marriage, no longer complete love will eventually be ruthlessly abandoned.