The folk saying that "itchy men are afraid of their wives" has a long history (another is that "itchy men are more gentle"). Although there is no scientific proof to prove the inevitable relationship between "itchy" and "fear of their wives", the Chinese believe that "there is no wind without waves", which makes those men who know themselves to be itchy feel a little uneasy, especially young men who are not married. So, are men's worries justified?
Are you afraid of itching?
So when searching for this topic on the Internet, more than 30000 pieces of relevant information can pop up, and many novels also use the words of the characters to express this view.
This shows that many people really care about this problem. So, is there any reason for men to worry?
The correct answer is: reasonable.
When the body and skin massage is insufficient in infancy, they will be ticklish in adulthood
There is a research center for infant mental maturity and development at Purdue University in the United States. After research, several children's psychiatrists and medical experts found that before the age of one, those infants with insufficient body and skin massage will be more itchy in adulthood. This may be a strong evidence that itchy men are afraid of their wives. For such a deduction, you may want to say that it is ridiculous. It is impossible to play with eight sticks!
But from the perspective of psychology, this is a completely valid conclusion.
The baby left the safe and comfortable mother to come to this strange world. He missed the constant temperature and comfortable uterus, but at the same time he had to work hard to adapt to the new way of life. At this time, his heart was full of complex feelings of novelty and fear. He urgently needed to be taken care of in an all-round way, and also needed a lot of companionship and physical care. The skin is the largest sensory organ of the human body. Small infants use it to feel the love and attention from adults, to create emotional, physical and psychological connection with adults, and to obtain a sense of inner security.
In the early stage of life, if the baby is not hugged and touched enough, it means that he does not get enough love, connection and security. For him, it becomes a sense of loss, and it is not enough to make up for it when he grows up (so it is popular to touch babies now, which not only helps to establish a sense of security, but also promotes the development of body and brain). Because a child's growth is irreversible, he will miss it if he misses it, so that the desire for love will be rooted in his deep subconscious.
Gestalt psychology emphasizes the integrity of experience and behavior, that is, people's psychological problems (needs) are due to the fixation or stagnation of a certain experience in the process of growth. As long as we return to the starting point leading to the fixation or stagnation of experience, and activate and re-growth the past experience, people can get back on the road and gain more inner strength.