"If you think you're sitting well, it's best to be outspoken about everything to your boyfriend, but it doesn't mean you can say anything to your boyfriend.". If your tongue accidentally sticks into the mouth of a wild man, it is obviously a wise choice to keep your mouth shut in front of your boyfriend. "Perhaps you will continue to suffer from guilt, but overly honest confessions can do no harm to intimate relationships.". Sharing between lovers should be something that can bring two people closer and harmonious. As for things that can cause harm, it's better to swallow them!
However, there is a difference between lying and keeping secrets. Habitually lying is very bad; Filter the secrets that have a killing effect, that is, zip up your mouth, OK. How to distinguish between the two? In what situations is it better to remain silent than to hold out? Let's see our analysis and arrangement.
You stole his things
"Your boyfriend's diary is lying on the table, or his phone is unlocked, constantly luring you to peek at it, so... with a weak willpower, you succumb.". As a result, you find that his Line has several rather ambiguous messages, with flirtatious words and tone between the lines, as well as a pile of love, chirping, and hugging textures that almost explode your blood vessels. Although you desperately want to question him: Say! Who is this dirty woman? What is your relationship? Tell me the truth! But if he did, he would never trust you again. Once you admit to violating his privacy, whether he is guilty or not, it will rationalize his anger and immediately turn around and accuse you of being both insecure and suspicious.
What should you do when you learn a fact that makes you feel quite uncomfortable in a difficult way? Try to hold back thousands of words and patiently wait for the right moment. When he accidentally reveals his secrets, he will be tortured severely. Or, put an eyeliner around him and immediately report any abnormality. In short, you must become famous before you can challenge others. Otherwise, there is no other way. After all, you have also violated the rules.
His friend is in love with you
When encountering such a situation, your first reaction is most likely to rush to the other half and tell him about the shameful behavior of his rotten buddies, but shutting up is the strategy you should adopt. Although the truth is hard to accept, he may not believe you, or he may mistakenly believe that you are trying to smear his good Maggie. "Or, he believes what you say, but feels it's no big deal, and stands by and lets you sulk;"; Otherwise, he chose to give up the friendship, but put the bill on you. No matter how you look at it, you're a loser.
If this happens only once, forget it! If the other person is stubborn, there is no need to involve the other person. It is necessary to clearly state your position to the guy, let him know that you have been deeply offended, and will never tolerate this happening again, or question his loyalty to his friend in person, to see if he can still speak up.
Sister Tao speaks ill of him
"If you tell him about the criticism of his sister Tao, you're really fooling two people at the same time.". "He will assume that you and your sister have nothing to do with Taotao and then break your mouth and criticize his shortcomings. However, a good sister who thought you wouldn't be foolish enough to speak out about yourself should be careful with your disgruntled boyfriend in the future.".
You can't stand his family
Saying bad things about his family can only embarrass you. Worse, he may secretly think that since you and his family are so incompatible, you may not be a long-term partner.
At this point, rather than expressing dissatisfaction with his family in words, it is better to face reality and try to get along with his annoying family. It's too difficult to find a husband's family that fits you 100%. The perfect family in novels and movies is an odd number, so try to show your affinity! At the very least, you should maintain a polite but slightly distant attitude. On the one hand, his family cannot criticize your upbringing, and on the other hand, don't make his boyfriend become a sandwich cookie. Afraid his mother would brainwash him? Don't worry, as long as he loves you enough, he will judge for himself. If he is influenced by his mother in a few words, don't worry about this kind of mother treasure.
You stole it behind his back
The secret is divided into many levels, and Pi Leg is the highest secret. Of course, this is a big stone that weighs on your heart, but it is also a secret that you cannot even say if you die. Whether motivated by selfishness or respect for the other person, the average person feels the need to honestly confess to relieve their burdens; "But it's not easy to successfully execute, and telling him usually only hurts him.". Moreover, he probably won't understand, let alone listen and leave, or even never trust you again; So, is it best not to say anything casually?
However, if you have a habit of cracking your legs, keeping secrets hidden in your heart may not be a good suggestion. You should look for the root cause of why you cheated, otherwise your relationship will never last long. It's just that the person you're talking to is not your boyfriend, but... a professional psychological counselor.