Post Date May, 27 2023
The difference between an extramarital affair and a one night stand is that a one night stand involves having sexual intercourse with a stranger, while an extramarital affair involves having multiple sexual encounters with one or several fixed partners. Some may say that extramarital affair is not just about sex, but also about romance. But are emotions beyond the legal and moral limits truly emotions? What do you want to find through extramarital love?
Prelude to Marriage: Extramarital Love
People's attitudes towards extramarital affairs can be seen in the following terms: adultery third party extramarital affairs. The term 'adultery' not only carries a clear derogatory connotation, but is also considered a criminal act during a specific period. And 'extramarital affairs' is obviously a neutral term, and may even be talked about by some people due to some special colors.
What are the consequences of an extramarital affair
The results of extramarital love are nothing but two: one is to break the current combination and turn to a new one; The second is to retreat after being crazy and noisy. Most urban white-collar workers choose the latter for extramarital affairs, as they only want the stimulation of extramarital relationships but are too lazy to divorce. After Jian and Ping got married, their relationship remained stable and their friends envied their godly days. But soon after, Ping discovered that her husband had another woman. Nevertheless, there has been no significant change in Jian's attitude and enthusiasm towards Ping, let alone his request for a divorce. Ping considers herself a gentle and caring wife, always wondering what she has done wrong and where she has gone wrong. In a conversation with her husband, the husband said that he did not find a lover because of his broken relationship with his wife, but just because of his boredom with the increasingly dull married life. He wanted to find a new stimulus outside his wife, "add salt, vinegar, and sesame oil to the white water life".
Limited sexual satisfaction after marriage
Modern emotional experts generally believe that maintaining and completing a marriage requires sexual activity. "Love is like cement, sex is steel, and together is called concrete." Marriage is first a necessary procedure in a civilized society. The marriage certificate is an official passport to enter the kingdom of sex, and its existence means that the couple can have sex freely. But it is precisely because of freedom that the spiritual satisfaction and physical pleasure in sexual intercourse between couples gradually decrease, as the beautiful illusions before marriage gradually disappear. As Freud said, "Sexual activity after legal marriage does not provide sufficient compensation for limitations on premarital sexual activity. Generally speaking, it only allows a few actions between couples that can lead to childbirth to seek satisfaction, because for this reason, a happy sexual life after marriage can only last for a few years
Important reasons for extramarital affairs
Due to the openness of social concepts, modern people's self-awareness has become increasingly strong, and both men and women have begun to have higher demands for the quality of sexual life. The monotonous and tedious nature of sexual activity in marriage is one of the main reasons why modern urban white-collar workers are heading towards extramarital affairs.
Modern emotional and sexual morality also provide some ethical basis for extramarital affairs. In the movie 'The Third Party', the wife faces an awkward logical inference: when it comes to marriage, the lover is undoubtedly the third party; In the face of emotions, the wife has become an absolute third party. This feeling and the ethical concept of emotional supremacy allow some people to pursue emotions and sex outside of marriage under the guise of pursuing love.
Regardless of whether extramarital love occurs for sexual or romantic reasons, it undoubtedly serves as a reminder for married men and women that both emotions and sex require hard work. As Lelo, a well-known brand of both genders, once said, perfect sex requires fresh patterns to be achieved. If you want a long-lasting marriage, don't forget to inject fresh blood into your relationship and sexual life, and keep love fresh.
Where should women go in extramarital affairs
In less than two years, Li Mei (pseudonym) transformed from a woman who was envied by others to a pitiful woman who had abandoned her husband and son, but was also abandoned by her lover. Now, Li Mei is deeply regretful about her extramarital affair. So if time could turn back, could she avoid such mistakes? Li Mei shook her head in confusion and said, 'I don't know!'
A once happy family
Previously, relatives and friends around Li Mei envied her having a good husband, Wei Peng (pseudonym), who took care of Li Mei meticulously while working in the government.
Li Mei doesn't like cooking, and Wei Peng rushes home to cook every day after work. When Li Mei returned home, Wei Peng had already brought the food to the table. Having been married for more than 10 years, Li Mei has cooked almost a few times, and her hands are kept white and smooth, almost comparable to the hands of a mannequin.
When they first got married, their income was meager, and after having a son, their finances became even more tense. In order to live a better life for his wife and children, Wei Peng has been using his spare time to work part-time to cover expenses.
Although Wei Peng was not wealthy, he couldn't even afford to buy a pair of socks for 5 yuan, but he didn't frown when he bought his wife a dress worth over 1000 yuan.
On his way home from work, Wei Peng would buy some delicious food for his wife and children. Watching them eat happily, Wei Peng felt very satisfied. "With such a beautiful wife and smart son, it's worth the pain of being tired.
Lover's wife knocks on the door
The beauty in Wei Peng's eyes was shattered on a weekend afternoon in 2002. At that time, a middle-aged woman with three men broke into the house, cursing Li Mei for being "shameless" and starting to punch and kick. Wei Peng quickly stepped forward to dissuade Li Mei, who took the opportunity to sneak into the bedroom. The middle-aged woman slapped a pile of photos onto the coffee table.
The photos were full of intimate scenes of his wife and a middle-aged man. Wei Peng was stunned at the time, while the middle-aged woman persisted and threatened to give Li Mei some color to see.
Fearing that his wife would be harmed, Wei Peng knelt down in a hurry and said, "Sister, I don't know anything about this matter at all. Please give me face and let me ask clearly before giving you an answer. Under Wei Peng's bitter plea, the middle-aged woman left with the others.
Li Mei opened the door and before Wei Peng could speak, she knelt in front of him and said, "I'm sorry for you, let's get a divorce. After the doubts in his heart were confirmed in his wife's mouth, Wei Peng sat motionless on the sofa all night and said, "Why am I so good to her and all I get is her betrayal
An office romance cannot be accepted
When Li Mei's extramarital affair was discovered, it had been going on for three years. Li Mei couldn't explain exactly how this extramarital affair started, as it seemed that everything was going naturally.
Because she doesn't have to do household chores, Li Mei always stays up late in the office before leaving; Her boss, on the other hand, stayed at the office unwilling to go home due to marital discord.
After work, Li Mei passed by her boss's office and saw him sighing alone. It turned out that the boss had just had a fight with his wife the day before, and when he saw Li Mei, he suffered greatly. Li Mei felt a pang of sadness in her heart, "Such a talented person, yet so pitiful.
After gaining sympathy, Li Mei began to take the initiative to care for her boss, giving him advice to resolve family disputes, serving as a counselor when he bought clothes, and taking care of his sick mother on his behalf
About six months later, on Li Mei's birthday, her boss unexpectedly gave her a gold necklace. Then, the two had a relationship in the office.
Afterwards, Li Mei often compared her superiors with her husband, feeling that they were "talented and capable of living," while her husband was "really bored.
Half a year later, they got married again
In early 2003, Li Mei and Wei Peng divorced. A few months later, the boss also went through divorce procedures and then married Li Mei Lightning.
Within two months of getting married, Li Mei realized that life was not as good as she had imagined. My husband doesn't do any household chores, and Li Mei is sweating profusely in the kitchen after work. However, he looks like he's in the office, holding a tea cup and reading newspapers.
After four months of marriage, Li Mei suddenly realized that her husband was still in contact with her ex wife. Moreover, upon receiving a phone call from his son who was sick, he would immediately rush out of the house and not even bother to change his shoes.
Thinking that her husband is also very strict in terms of money and never gives her a penny after marriage, Li Mei feels even more aggrieved. As a result, within six months, Li Mei divorced again.
After the divorce, Li Mei found Wei Peng under the guise of looking after the children and knelt down again, hoping that her ex husband could forgive her. After his divorce, Wei Peng lost confidence in women.
Looking at his tearful wife, Wei Peng felt only heartache, "I will never forget the joy my wife had when she knew I agreed to divorce
Think twice before acting
In real life, most people only focus on men's extramarital affairs, but now there are not a few women who cheat, and the proportion of Gaozhi women who cheat is higher. Once women have an extramarital affair, it is difficult to turn back and the proportion of family breakdowns is very high. At the same time, many people feel unhappy and even miss their original marital life after marrying their extramarital partner.
Li Mei had an extramarital affair with her boss, and Li Aiping believed that it was not Li Mei's responsibility alone, and Wei Peng also had a responsibility. His failure lies in spending all his free time earning extra income, believing that giving his wife a good material life is good for her. But in the eyes of his wife, what he did was not as warm as going for a walk together after dinner.
For some women, entering an extramarital relationship seems uncontrollable. But Li Aiping believes that extramarital love is not inevitable. Li Mei's empathy for her boss is a dangerous signal. If she can brake in time at this time and does not have further contact with her boss, there will be no future romance. Li Mei unconsciously played the role of his wife while helping her boss buy clothes and take care of his sick mother. These actions also sparked his boss's favor towards Li Mei and further pushed the extramarital affair forward. The boss gave Li Mei a birthday gift, which undoubtedly pushed their relationship to a cliff.
When women are troubled by extramarital affairs, they only think of divorce. Li Aiping warned these women, "Many girls understand from their first love that love and marriage cannot be completely equated. When engaging in extramarital affairs, women should consider more issues, such as what to do with their children in the future, whether they can resolve the hostility of the other party's family, whether they can tolerate the other party still caring about their original children... These seemingly insignificant small issues have enormous energy to break a marriage again
