I long for the thoughtfulness and care that a man should have

Last year, I reluctantly returned home because the child was very poor and no one took care of it. I took my child to the pulmonary department for two months, and my heart softened. I looked after the child pitifully and took care of this family again. Returning home and repeating my previous life, I am very confused now! Very heartache! I just thought about the child being pitiful, and now we don't even want to talk to each other in person, let alone our marital life. And seeing him gives me a very annoying feeling! No warmth! Without a married life, it doesn't give me a sense of security. I yearn for the care and care that a man should have. Where should I go?

Ms. Zhao:

A husband who is cheating on you, regardless of whether he is cheating or not, cannot bear the responsibility for the family. Your departure is the right choice in your life, and it is not advisable to reluctantly maintain the family for the sake of the child. But after your divorce, you looked after your child pitifully and returned to his side to live your previous life. Not only did you not have legal protection, but many of the problems that existed before were also not solved. You only came back to solve the problem of child care, and other more difficult problems were ignored by you. You said he couldn't give you care and care, and there was no marital life. Isn't that why you left in the first place? But you have made the same mistake again. He has a woman outside, so naturally he doesn't have any interest in you. Of course he would be happy if you come back, but unfortunately there's a shortage of free nannies at home. Why not?

Come back, without self-esteem, life will become even more unbearable in the future. Only by letting go of him, becoming independent first, and finding the next section of happiness is the path you need to take. The most important thing at present is to strengthen yourself in order to protect children and give them a better life. You are independent, and your happiness will soon come, rather than relying on him.