Post Date April, 15 2023
"I have a deeply loved boyfriend who feels like the happiest person in the world when I'm with him, but our relationship has been bumpy.".
"When we were together, I knew that he occasionally chatted online with his former girlfriend. At that time, I didn't take it personally, and I never doubted him. However, when he went to see his former girlfriend privately on the pretext of traveling, he took the initiative to break up with me first. No matter how hard I pleaded, it didn't help. At that time, my face was washed with tears every day, pain, and hatred.".
But three months later, he came back to me and said he wanted to get back together. I realized I still cared about him, so we made up. However, I often think of his original unfeeling feelings. Gradually, I couldn't find a sense of security in him, and just at this time, I met other boys. I told myself that I wouldn't be as foolish as before, and I would also leave a way for myself.
"Paper can't hold the fire. After he discovered that I had a boyfriend outside, we had a big fight. I said I was doing this to retaliate against him, but we broke up again.".
After a year, I really couldn't forget him. I went back to him and wanted to make up, but he said he wouldn't love me anymore. I have hurt him, but I have never abandoned him in my heart. "I have been unable to forgive myself and have always blamed myself for hurting him, but I also know that there is no longer any possibility between us.".
The teacher helped me, how should I come out? I'm so miserable.
Ms. Zhao:
"The separation, separation, and combination of emotions are always so hurtful, and your heart still loves him. Therefore, you are in great pain now, which can be understood.".
"If you want to fully emerge from this relationship, you may need to rebuild your outlook on love and avoid applying past experiences to future relationships.". Because from your description, you did not establish the bottom line of love. He came back to seek you to reunite with his ex-girlfriend after being separated from each other. Instead of choosing to leave, you abandoned yourself and retaliated with a tooth for a tooth. Therefore, after that, the relationship between the two people reached an irreversible point.
"Now that he has clearly stated that he does not love you, but you still have to hang on to it, which indicates that you are not willing to accept this fact.". Love has long since ceased, even leaving only disgust. How do you expect him to describe you beautifully?
Take a good look at your own concept of love and love logic, and deal with every problem and crisis in your relationship in a rational and positive manner. Only then can you reap a healthy and happy love.
