Sexual Health
I bore the humiliation and gave birth to a child when I was pregnant before I married. After one year of marriage, he abandoned us cruelly and made a new love
I am a sentimental girl. I like watching Qiongyao Opera since I was a child. Every time there are such beautiful, sad and happy pictures, my heart also rises and falls. I am moved by the persistence of the male and female protagonists in love, and the vow of "heaven and earth are united, and we dare to separate". Many years later, when I grew up, I longed for my own clean, simple and pure love. The sentimentality and kindness revealed in my bones made me different from girls of the same age.
The first time I met him was in my junior year. His appearance made me feel excited for the first time, and my desire for love became fiercer and fiercer. Ignoring the reserve of the girl, I tried my best to create an encounter, let him pay attention to me and feel my feelings for him. He is a smart boy who knows how to respect the feelings of girls. After getting familiar with him, we go to class, eat together and go shopping.
After graduation, the results of campus lovers are almost the same. Most of them choose to break up and fly alone. I don't believe in fate. I insist on fighting with him. With our luggage, we came to the big city to fight and become an ant tribe. The real life has made our feelings undergo twists and turns. Squeezed in a small house of less than 10 square meters, he goes out early and comes back late every day. He usually lives by saving money. I don't complain about anything. He is upset at work.
This kind of life lasts for three years. I make money by my own strength and never give him any trouble. His efforts have also been rewarded. The stability of his career has made me plan to marry. But he didn't mean to propose to me. I feel very uncomfortable.
Day by day, with the postponement of the physiological period and the daily bulge of the lower abdomen, I unexpectedly became pregnant. I was surprised and happy to tell him the news of being a father. His eyebrows were tight, his mouth moved, and he was ready to speak again. After writing for more than ten minutes, his mouth leaped and said to me the words' kill the child '. At that moment, I was disappointed with him. I had the ability to conceive a child. Why didn't I have the courage to take responsibility?
I didn't agree, so he quarreled with me and put forward many high-sounding reasons to suppress me. I cried with my family wrongfully and got a scolding. The traditional thoughts in my family made me carry the title of not loving myself, and the indifference of my lover made me despair of life. I spent time with him. My stomach swelled day by day. He finally agreed to have the child. We got the certificate in a hurry and held a simple wedding. My parents kept nagging me, saying that I was not obedient, did not love myself, and did not give them face.
When I was pregnant and gave birth, no one in my family cared about me. Even my mother-in-law felt that I was not serious and had a cold attitude towards me. She felt that I had come from the wrong side. The husband and his family only had a smiling face when they endured childbirth and gave birth to a son. The marriage was peaceful. When the child was one year old, my husband and I discussed with my mother-in-law to help take care of the child. I continued to work. His indifferent appearance made me sad.
One time, I saw his ambiguous chat with a woman on his mobile phone. I wished it was just a joke. I asked him directly to give me an explanation. His answer was very straightforward: "Now that you have seen it, I will confess. You must not listen to me when I said no children at the beginning. I have no intention of marrying you, and you must tie me with children. This girl is the boss's daughter, and she is the object I should pursue. You can't accept me now, you can go at any time..."
This is what he explained to me. I suffered from so much white eyes and humiliation when I was pregnant. Now, he added a charge to me: tie him with a child!!! If he told me clearly that he didn't want to marry me, how could I be so shameless? Obviously, he cheated first, and now it seems that I am the wrong person. If there are no children, I can leave. But with children, I have concerns. I don't want children to grow up in single-parent families. What can I do? Good pain.
reply:
The simplicity of college makes the relationship between you warm up quickly. However, the social reality has corrupted your husband's heart and made him materialistic. Between fame and affection, he still chose the former. I refuse to marry you later, just regard you as a spare tire.
A man's attitude towards women determines his position in the family. You are despised by their family, and it is also because your husband doesn't pay attention to you. Your whole heart is in him, without considering that his love for you has changed. The arrival of the child does not affect him, but makes him think that this is your threat to his marriage.
It is suggested to seriously consider the relationship with him and not spend time on a person who is not worthy of your love. When a child grows up in such an unhealthy family, he will only be more affected psychologically. If you consider comprehensively, you should consider your own future more. Such a committee is not your life. Consider your marriage carefully and don't let him bully others like this. I wish you happiness.