Sexual Health
Husband's temperament changed greatly after cheating and he said he would die without divorce
I'm really confused about the divorce.
"We have been married for twenty years and have always been happy and harmonious, but I have often worked in a field for the past two years.". In 2015, his temperament changed greatly and he died without divorce. Now I have another reason to sleep in the basement and sleep in the car, but I feel sick in the early morning and want to find him back, but no one in the car sleeps at all. I called him countless times, but I still came back, acting as if nothing had happened. I seemed to care about me, caressing and hugging, asking questions, and applying medication for me.
But within an hour, he found a reason to go to the basement to rest, but in fact, he drove out again. A man can still get up from another woman's bed and return home as soon as possible after the phone rings in the middle of the night. Is there still a wife and children in his heart? I'm so conflicted that I can't wait for a divorce. "I promised him a divorce, but he wasn't willing to face problems and solve them, just trying to trick me into getting a divorce secretly.". He should not bear any debts and responsibilities, hateful and hateful.
I really have to face divorce. I'm afraid I'll regret it after I leave. After all, money is a personal thing, and debt is nothing. I'm also trying to run my own health club, but he doesn't care about my business, and he doesn't want to work himself. He drives a beautiful car of 300000 yuan every day, boasting in front of that woman, as if he were a big boss and an economist.
Sometimes I want a divorce, but I really don't want him to live in a hypocritical world, to live in deception all day, and to live in extreme pain, because he is at home every day, and there are countless bitter dramas staged in front of me, showing that he is truly miserable and unbearable. However, seeing him leave my sight and leave home, he was so happy and happy that Guan Zhi couldn't believe he was the same person. I also very much hope that he is happy, so my conflicts and entanglements affect my mood in doing business.
I don't know how to choose? Help me.
reply:
1. "No marriage can be once and for all, and any marriage will have risks. It will not be because the first 20 years have been calm and the next 20 years will not be turbulent.". Therefore, at any time, one should face up to the reality, face up to the various issues that arise in marriage, and calmly find ways to solve the problems faced, rather than just trapped in entanglement, pain, and helplessness.
2. It must be acknowledged that when there are problems in marriage, both individuals must have responsibilities and both need to reflect and review themselves. First find out your own shortcomings, then go and argue with the other party. At this point, the first step to solving a problem is to communicate well and calmly put all issues on the table. "The best way to achieve reconciliation is to make the next step if the negotiations fail.".
3. When a man cheats, as a wife, do you choose to forgive or leave? This of course depends on the other party's attitude and reaction afterwards. "If the other party has a good attitude of confession, a sense of repentance, and a first offense, it is natural to choose to give him a chance.". If the other person is already not with you at all and is fully prepared to divorce, then you can only choose to accept and face reality.
4. In terms of your marriage model, you may be playing the role of a powerful woman and the pillar of the family. You run your own business, but your husband doesn't have his own career or even a job, but he is just a person who is accustomed to idleness. He drives the luxury car you bought with money, goes to the market, and then shows off to seduce women. After careful consideration, is it because you indulged him today? Women should not just be busy with their own affairs, nor should they focus too much on making money in their careers, ignoring the need for warmth and control over men. They should neither let them go, nor be too strong.
5. Why didn't this man fool around and choose to leave you before? Did he see that your current business is in debt, causing him to lose his sense of security and habitual dependence on your future development? This is a selfish man without a sense of responsibility. He may only care about enjoying himself, but he never wants to share it with you. Therefore, after a momentary change of face, when fleeing, he thinks and calculates to avoid debt, and he doesn't even care about you and your children. Therefore, you should not be too foolish to have any illusions about him. At the crucial moment of breaking your face, you should safeguard your own vital interests. "If you have fully understood this man's face, there is nothing to hesitate about. With your own business acumen and drive, and with your shrewdness and intelligence in business, I don't believe you can't defeat each other. The key is that you can't defeat yourself now.".
6. Don't accept this man's acting and pretending in front of you anymore. The only thing you can accept is his complete repentance and taking responsibility again. Don't consider anything else, otherwise, if you continue to struggle, you will only continue to suffer. If you have reached the stage of divorce, it is recommended that you not easily believe in a man's morality and commitment, but use legal procedures and weapons to protect yourself.