Netizen: I have been married for several months, and I have several questions between husband and wife to ask for advice:
1、 On the night of the first night, I did not see red, and my husband suspected that I was unfaithful to him. But a few days later, during sexual intercourse, he used his fingers to dig deep into the vagina to remove semen (fearing pregnancy). The next morning, I discovered blood stains and told him, but my husband believed that it was caused by finger movements in the vagina, not redness. Excuse me, if it is not the blood from the rupture of hymen, can it be said that if you move your fingers in the vagina, similar bleeding may also occur?
2、 After my wedding night, whenever I have sex, my husband always feels that my vagina is relaxed (it doesn't irritate the penis) and asks if he had sexual activity before marriage. No, but he didn't listen. He believed that if the wall was completed, the vagina wouldn't relax, but rather tightly closed.
For these two reasons, the husband always refused to believe that I was innocent and emphasized that if I could provide proof, he would only believe it. Doctor, now that I am no longer a perfect woman, how can I prove that I did not have sexual intercourse with anyone before marriage? If I don't have sexual relations, will my vagina also relax?
3、 After the husband was hospitalized for surgery due to anger, every time he had an erection during intercourse, the penis became weak and he had never experienced premature ejaculation. However, what factors caused the penis to become soft? Will this affect fertility?
Xiao Huang: It is very common for the first night to not turn red. Although the hymen is complete, if the opening of the hymen itself is relatively wide, and the hymen itself is strong and tough, it will not fall red at first night. The hymen may also be lacerated due to bicycling, horseback riding, or other sports, so that the first night does not fall red. So it's not right to judge a woman as not a virgin from the first night when she doesn't turn red.
There is blood in the vagina the next day, which may be caused by the rupture of hymen, but the blood flows inward, so your husband can't see the blood on the sheets. Fingers moving inside the vagina should not cause vaginal bleeding unless the nails are too long.
The tightness of the vagina varies from person to person, just like everyone's nostrils, which are wide and narrow. Some people have no sexual experience, but the vagina itself is relatively loose; Some women even have children and their vagina is still very tight. Therefore, judging whether a woman is a virgin based on the tightness of the vagina can often lead to errors.
At present, it is impossible for you to provide evidence to prove whether you are a virgin. What you should do now is to let your husband know the correct relationship between hymen redness, vaginal tightness and virginity, which is the way to untie this knot.
Mr. A's penis is relatively weak, which may be related to age and psychological factors, or it may make him feel that your vagina is too loose (in fact, it is because he is too weak and small).
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)