Reader's Letter:
Hello! I am 35 years old this year, my husband is 41 years old, and we have been married for 11 years. We have a 10-year-old daughter, who is the leader of our unit. In the eyes of outsiders, we should be a happy family of three, but there are some things that only we know.
"I have always felt that I love him more than he loves me. After all these years of marriage, he has never celebrated a birthday for me, even with a simple" Happy Birthday "phrase. However, every year on his birthday, I carefully prepare birthday gifts for him, so whenever I think of these, I feel particularly cold.".
"I have been paying for this family all along. He is a relatively playful person who often eats and drinks outside. I am doing all the household chores, large and small, all by myself. The child is so old, and the number of times we go out for walks together is rare.".
What's more annoying is that he seems to have a special affinity for women. Wherever he goes, he has a special rapport with women, and he didn't realize it before getting married. This is what I most dislike. If I had discovered it before, I would never have married him.
"When my daughter was about three years old, he had been in contact with a married woman. I pulled through his phone list and almost every day, there were several phone calls or text messages, and there were several ambiguous messages. One time, the woman sent me a message saying, 'Miss you, how are you?' Once, my husband sent me a message saying, 'I have a party tonight, can you come out?'"
I also found that they would often eat together, and I had quarrelled with him for this many times, but he explained; "They are just friends who have a good chat, and there has been no cheating.". Gun for a long time. Do men and women really have true friends like he said?
This has always been an inextricable knot in my heart. I think since we are ordinary friends and we have been arguing for her, why can't my husband cut off contact with her for me? The only explanation is that he doesn't care about me and doesn't love me at all.
By November 2008, they finally stopped contacting, but it wasn't for me. It was because he had hooked up with a female subordinate from the same unit, who was a 31 year old unmarried woman with a good appearance. He only transferred to the same unit in September 2007, and fell in love in February 2008.
Previously, I heard from colleagues that her style was not good, and her husband would call on her every time he ate and sang. For the sake of his future, I have always advised him to pay attention to influence and not ruin his own future because of a woman. However, he not only refused to listen, but also got closer and closer. I pulled out his phone list and was shocked. Since December 2008, phone messages have been continuously sent every day, and even the woman on New Year's Day dared to call her, "I was disappointed, quarreled with him, threatened him with a divorce, and he promised me not to sing with him in the future.".
But the third day, they were found together in the singing hall by me. Although there were several people together, he didn't keep his word. I gave him a slap in the face and ran away the next day.
"I thought he would change this time he came back, and I believe they're just chatting well, and there shouldn't be anything out of line. Besides, that woman is still unmarried, and she won't spoil herself with her reputation.".
But I was wrong. One day in April this year, maybe God had an eye on them. They were opening a room in a hotel and I caught them.
There was no sense of shame on the woman's face. She stared at me with wide eyes and pointed at me, asking if I wanted to make things bigger. The arrogant demeanor made me unable to believe that she was an unmarried woman.
"At this time, my husband not only didn't help me, but also pressed me on the bed to deal with me with that woman. My heart was broken, and now I think of these with tears streaming down my face. A person who is closest to me not only didn't help me in front of outsiders, but also beat me, and I can't live with him anymore.".
"I solemnly proposed a divorce to him, but he didn't agree. He said he knew he was wrong, and he no longer contacted the woman. I also called the woman to my house. The three people talked face to face, and they all promised that in the future, there would be a colleague relationship, and there would be no more.".
For the sake of my daughter, I made do for a while. During this time, I couldn't tell from the phone records that they were in contact. My husband came home earlier than before, and even where he was playing, he would explain to me clearly. Maybe he was making changes, but who knows if it was true or not.
(Intern Editor: Chen Hao)