Sexual Health
How to teach children's sex education the most suitable way for parents to grasp these points correctly
From the perspective of psychologists, they advocate that "in terms of sexuality, parents are teachers, and family is the classroom." Positive sex education for children is necessary for enlightenment and also a guarantee of their mental health.
1. The question of sex must be answered. Before the age of 18, children's Psychosexual development can be divided into five periods:
*Before the age of 3, it is the lip stage, and babies like to eat pacifiers and suck their fingers;
*At the age of 3, there is a period of sexual ambiguity, and children begin to explore sexual issues;
*6-8 years old is the school age, and boys and girls have relatively little developmental deviation, so they can play together;
*Around the age of 10, it is early adolescence, and male and female students gradually become estranged;
*After entering puberty, due to the influence of sex hormones, female breasts develop, male testicles increase, and in the middle and late stages, female menstruation begins and male ejaculation occurs.
On the one hand, they will be frightened by their own physical changes, and on the other hand, they will be particularly curious about the bodies of the opposite sex. If they cannot answer their parents' questions at this time, they will find ways to explore on their own, such as going online to watch, or interacting and socializing with girls.
Experts say that among the five periods mentioned above, the age of 3 is the key period for sex education. To avoid deviations in children's sexual psychology and behavior, parents should provide positive answers to questions about "sex" raised by children at this time, and should not be perfunctory.
For parents' difficulty in speaking up, experts suggest using methods similar to plants and animals to explain, "If a child asks where they come from, parents can say that their parents are in love, and their parents plant a seed in their mother's belly. The seed slowly germinates and grows into a little person. When the little person matures, their mother will give birth to him and let him see this beautiful world. Upon hearing this answer, the child will be very satisfied
Gradually separating children from their mothers' embrace is also an important part of sex education. Experts say that children, especially boys, overly attached to their mothers can affect their psychological development. She suggests that "around the age of 3, children should be separated from their parents in bed." Otherwise, not only is it detrimental to their parents' emotional well-being, but the child's ability to interact with others is also not as good as other independent children, resulting in withdrawal behavior, decreased adaptability, and thus affecting their sexual psychology.
2. Make good use of touch and visual education for different age groups
The question of sex needs to be answered. Experts believe that children's associations are rich. By using metaphorical methods to answer, children may have more questions, I think it's important to be honest and straightforward. You can give a simple answer, but you can't deceive or blurt it out. For example, if a child asks' Where do I come from ', you can tell them that their father and mother are in love, and their father's organs enter their mother's organs. One of their father's sperm and one of their mother's eggs combine to form an embryo, and the embryo grows up and becomes a baby