Post Date April, 15 2023
In marriage, there are always too many complaints. The reason why I complain is that I am not strong enough to tolerate each other. If there is no complaint to the other party, the abandonment is often too thorough. As the saying goes, "The mouth is not forgiving, the heart is not forgiving, and the mouth is sweet." In marriage, if you can maintain the appreciation of the other party at the beginning, then the hearts of both parties will be full of gratitude. Because in marriage, both parties have paid more to each other than when they are in love, but they are used to paying each other.
I remember a woman who was the owner of a restaurant. She was always picky because she thought her husband was idle. What made her even more incomprehensible was that her husband had hooked up with a waiter in the hotel. She made a lot of noise about her husband and threatened to divorce many times. She couldn't understand that she was so hard that she was mercilessly abandoned by this man. In her opinion, everyone around her feels that her husband is not good enough. When she holds this attitude, it seems that his husband's existence is unnecessary for him. Until one day, when she went to the station to buy a ticket home, she suddenly found that her ID card was not with her. At this time, she called her husband, and he sent it to her in a hurry. And she didn't think how good her husband was! Until she sent a WeChat in her circle of friends, and then her colleague told her that she had such a good husband. She was very happy! She suddenly realized that she had neglected all the advantages of her husband, and that all she saw were her husband's shortcomings. Under such a philosophy of life, marriage had already existed in name only. In fact, his heart of loving his husband was just blinded by pessimism. Therefore, if you want to examine your marriage, you should also refer to the opinions of others.
The reason why people don't know how to tolerate others is that people contact with different people. If you don't have the opportunity to meet too many excellent people, you should learn to make yourself that excellent person and let your behavior drive and influence more people. In marriage, a very important skill is to exaggerate the advantages of the other party. When you appreciate the advantages of the other party, the other party will feel more confident because of your appreciation. How to save marriage with gratitude? This requires you to remember the efforts of others, but to learn to store the emotion and sincerity in your heart and treat others with a sincere heart. In this way, many problems between you can be minimized in the future. As a smart person, we should deal with small problems in this way. In marriage and family, it is the accumulation of countless small things that have made the feelings between each other. You should know that love at first sight is always defeated by love over time. That's why.
When there is a problem in marriage, there must be a deviation in the cognition between the two people in the marriage. Both parties ignore that marriage itself is an emotional investment. If one of them says goodbye, it is a bad debt loss for both parties. Therefore, we should understand empathy and appreciate each other in daily life. When you have a grateful heart to look at your marriage, your living environment, mood and happiness will change.
